When is Enough Too Much

This is one of those blog posts that I wasn’t sure belonged here or at my “Other Blog”.  I opted for the Other Blog, but I’m posting it here as a link because it’s relevant.  Really– it is.

So–

When is enough too much? …to find out the answer to this, click  Here.

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The Saga of “Evil Gloria”

I’m in the type of business where I often do telephone consultations with clients, doing intutive psychic tarot readings.  Usually these sessions go remarkably well and everyone comes away with a warm and fuzzy feeling and hopefully a few answers, if not a solution, to their issues.  Usually this is the way it goes.

Then one day I had a telephone consultation with “Lilly”. I knew which direction this was going to go the moment that I answered the phone, because she started talking and she didn’t stop.  Lilly spent the better part of a half hour trying to convince me that she was completely, totally, so over her ex-boyfriend, “John”, who was stolen from her by Evil Gloria– a woman whom Lilly claimed used black magic to wrench John from her.  Damn Gloria.

Here is where I tried to interrupt Lilly so that I could begin the reading.  I was abruptly cut off by Lilly’s voice saying, with only slightly veiled disdain:  “I’m paying you to listen to me.”

“Well, no”, I replied, “You’re paying me to read for you, and without some quiet, I can’t do this.” I thought this was a remarkably diplomatic way of telling Lilly to shut up.

Anyway, it didn’t matter.  Lilly started off on another ten minute tangent of how Evil Gloria stole John with her tremendous powerful utterly awful black magic.  About this time, she also started listing off all the psychics that she’s went to and how they’ve all told her that she would be happily reunited with John and Evil Gloria would meet a guy named Karma.  Lilly went on to talk about all the money that she’s spent on magic spells that she paid other people to do for her regarding this situation.  Her speech was interspersed for some reason with lot’s of “I would never try to convert you…” and “I don’t mean to be rude– but…” .  Lilly also kept referring to John as her ‘twin soul’, but from the look of the tarot cards that I kept laying, I’d say that John was getting comfortable with Evil Gloria, and maybe he was seriously considering a restraining order against Chatterbox Lilly– and I thought to myself, if he wasn’t, he should be.

 Time was passing, the clock was ticking, and this conversation was going no where fast.
 
I tried interrupting Lilly once more, just barging in and beginning the reading by identifying the cards I laid and touching base with them before jumping through the intuitive hoop.  I no more than said one sentence when Lilly’s by now very irritating voice cut in saying, “I don’t want to hear the book meanings of the cards, I can look that up myself.”  Well, that’s true, but this is the base that I begin with before I let it rip and say what I see.  That’s the way it works; that’s how I center myself.  It’s always worked that way, and as I’m touching base with the cards in this manner, it is providing a connection for me to expand my sight.
 
By now, I’m fed up.  I’d rather refund Lilly for the reading and hang up on her.
 
I begin talking over her, telling her what I see– John is happy, John and Evil Gloria are established in a relationship– it doesn’t matter how she got him, the fact is that they are together now.  But Lilly is just not ready to let it go, and the energy from this entire situation is so toxic that I suggested she back away and have no contact with either of these people.  I also advised her to smudge her living space of negative energy and to take a cleansing bath.
 
There was a very small and surprised, “Oh” from Lilly.  A period of about three seconds of blessed silence was suddenly broken by a new barrage from her.  Lilly began to indignantly point out that all these pyschics she’s been going to have all told her that she will get back with John.  I cut her off saying, “I don’t care about the psychics that you’ve seen.  There’s no way for me to know if they are legitimate, or if they are just telling you what you want to hear.”
 
Once more I told her what the cards were telling me, emphasizing the fact that no, she is not over losing John, far from over it, that there were issues she was going to have to deal with, negative energy she was going to have to clear, and ways to move on that were going to have to be found…and that was the end of the consultation.
 
It literally took me the rest of the day to rid myself of Lilly’s intense overbearing disturbing energy.
 
As for Evil Gloria…I don’t believe that Evil Gloria stole John with witchcraft.  I have a feeling that Evil Gloria doesn’t talk much.
 
 

A Guide to Facebook Etiquette

The following rules and guidelines are generally common sense observations and behaviors. The problem is that when some people get on a social website, they forget the good manners and common sense their parents taught them. There are also some rather unusual circumstances and unique opportunities that we generally don’t face in the real world which often comes up in the land of the internet. This is a guide on handling those opportunities, circumstances, and up close personal encounters with total strangers.

 1. Don’t request that I confirm you as a family member when you are not.

I would be delighted to confirm my sisters, children, husband, and any other members of my extended family. But I will not confirm total strangers as family members– and really, I don’t understand why anyone would even make such a request, but they do. I can only assume that it’s a private fantasy.

 2. Don’t tag me in photographs.

There are a couple exceptions to this rule. It’s okay to tag me if 1) I’m actually in the photograph; 2) You are a family member or a close personal friend who wants to make sure that I’ll see this photo.

Now…I’m assuming that I don’t have to include drawn-out definitions of ‘family member’ and ‘close personal friend’. I will state plainly that neither of these exceptions pertain to random pieces of internet art from strangers, photos that include people I don’t know from places I’ve never been, or those cheesy ‘birthday’ posters which seem to come in twenty at a time.

 3. Don’t post apps on my page.

For those people who are into apps, fine and dandy, if this rocks your boat and you enjoy playing with it– by all means, knock yourself out. But I don’t do apps, plain and simple. I will block apps that are posted to my page. And I really would like to warn people who do dabble with apps that many of them carry viruses, and I’ve personally experienced this– enough times and with enough trouble and problems that I decided…no more apps, period.

 4. Don’t be rude or asinine.

People tend to be much more bold about what they will say to you on the internet than they would probably be in a face to face encounter…I hope.

A perfect example of this is when I post updates for products or services for my online metaphysical shops and tarot readings. The last time I did this is when I got a new shipment of jewelry in and posted it to Enchanted Jewelry. This guy comes on with this statement: “Do you not know that the Goddess is not for sale.”

 The Goddess may not be for sale, but my jewelry is.

My online shops and readings are a business. I am not a rich woman. I am not in the grand position of being able to give away merchandise that I’ve purchased from other vendors or created myself with materials that I‘ve paid good money for; and I cannot afford to spend hours doing tarot readings without being reimbursed for my time. Facebook is a wonderful venue, not only for making friends and socializing, but for networking with your business, expanding business contacts, and getting your products and information out there.

Bottom line here is if you are rude or obnoxious, I have no qualms about hitting the block button. I will not tolerate assholes— either in the real world, or in the land of Facebook.

 5. Before you come on to a woman with a cheesy pick up line, check her profile and look at the relationship status.

I’m married. My husband and a link to his page are right there– under my profile photo. I don’t know how much plainer I can make it.

I’m at Facebook for a few simple reasons: 1) to meet other like-minded people in the pagan community; 2) to network my business and my website; 3) to advertise my book, as well as future projects coming up. I thoroughly enjoy the majority of people I’ve met at Facebook and consider it my privilege to be able to call them ‘friend’. This medium has given us an invaluable way to meet people we would otherwise never have had the opportunity of crossing paths with.

*Just a note…I’m amazed at the number of men who will try to pick up a woman at a social site apparently without looking past a profile pic to read any information about her. (Tsk, tsk.) I can tell you that even if I were young and single, I wouldn’t give the time of day to someone who did not have enough common sense, courtesy, or interest in finding out about me before contacting me. I would naturally assume that they had the attention span of a gnat.

 6. Do not include my name in mass Facebook messages.

I repeat…do not do this.

This is one of the most irritating things to receive in your Facebook message box; and it’s usually from people I don’t know, dealing with subjects I don’t care about. Imagine, if you can, receiving ten of these messages at one time, each message sent simultaneously to fifty people. Once those fifty people start responding to the original message, you will have about 500 messages cramming your inbox.

And yes, I know that several groups send mass messages, and I will receive the bulk message because ‘you are a member of this group’. Well, I hate to tell you, but your mass emails can be irritating as well, and I’ve deleted several groups who make a habit of this practice. I know, I know…you have information to get out there. Well, I can tell you that I’m a member of a secret group here at Facebook– and I have never sent out a mass Facebook message to its members…that’s what our private website and emails are for.

*Edit: 4-28-2011

7.  Do not add me to a group without my permission.

You’d think this is one of those things that goes without saying– you’d think. 

If you are the administrator of a group and you feel I might be interested, send me a query message telling me about your group, with an invitation to join.  Odds are, I’m probably not going to join, but you never know.  There are so many groups out there, many of them genuinely interesting, but I have only so much time and energy to spend at Facebook.

The last surprise I need is a flurry of emails coming in from a group that I’ve never heard of nor had any contact with previous to being added.  Bottom line…If you spontaneously add me to your group, odds are I will just as spontaneously leave the group– and I will block you.

 And that’s about all this Witch has to say for today.

 Blessed Be,
Let Your Magick Shine.

 And remember…
Kindness & consideration go a long way.

 

Titles, Respect, & Pagan Etiquette

Ethics within the coven…

The best all-around policy is to practice politeness to each other.  That’s when we can use the old titles; they breed respect.  ‘Lady’ Medea…Lady Circe, Lady Persephone.  The word ‘lady’ means "she who makes the loaf"; it is not a class title…This language will help you have dignity and confer honor upon each other. *

When I became legally ordained, I was given options for a title.  This title would appear on legal documents, on my ordination certificate, on the clergical card I carry.  All of the options I was given were based in Christian tradition, and only one of the options was feminine.

I wanted none of these.

So I chose the title of ‘Lady’.

I know that there are Wiccan traditions out there that are very particular about who carries this title, and many of them have very specific requirements or very rigorous studies that must be completed before this title is conferred. 

I respect the effort it takes for the recipient to earn this sacred title. 

But as an electic solitary Witch, I have gone through my own personal initiations, my own rigorous coming of age, my own spiritual growth, complete with unending study, unending accumulation of knowledge and experience– it is an ongoing life-long process.  It is a trial by fire, this pagan path, and we each come through it tempered as is steel, with our strong points forged and our power cast.

This post is in honor of every solitary Witch or Wizard, Shaman or Pagan out there who is working and striving to develop and build their own spiritual path.

Bright Blessings,
Lady Amythyst Raine

Note:  The Quote above is from:  "The Holy Book of Women’s Mysteries" by Z Budapest.  For more information, or to view/purchase this book, follow this url:

http://www.zbudapest.com/books-z-budapest.html

 

Titles, Respect, & Pagan Etiquette

  Ethics within the coven…

The best all-around policy is to practice politeness to each other.  That’s when we can use the old titles; they breed respect.  ‘Lady’ Medea…Lady Circe, Lady Persephone.  The word ‘lady’ means "she who makes the loaf"; it is not a class title…This language will help you have dignity and confer honor upon each other. *

When I became legally ordained, I was given options for a title.  This title would appear on legal documents, on my ordination certificate, on the clergical card I carry.  All of the options I was given were based in Christian tradition, and only one of the options was feminine.

I wanted none of these.

So I chose the title of ‘Lady’.

I know that there are Wiccan traditions that are very particular about who carries this title, and many of them have very specific requirements or very rigorous studies that must be completed before this title is conferred. 

I respect the effort it takes for the recipient to earn this sacred title. 

But as an electic solitary Witch, I have gone through my own personal initiations, my own rigorous coming of age, my own spiritual growth, unending study, unending accumulation of knowledge and experience.  It is a trial by fire, this pagan path, and we each come through it tempered as is steel, with our strong points forged and our power cast.

This post is in honor of every solitary Witch or Wizard out there who is working and striving to develop and build their own spiritual path.

Bright Blessings,
Lady Amythyst Raine

Note:  The Quote above is from:  "The Holy Book of Women’s Mysteries" by Z Budapest.  For more information, or to view/purchase this book, follow this url:

http://www.zbudapest.com/books-z-budapest.html

(This was originally posted in my Myspace blog, August 2009)