I receive a lot of email from a lot of people. Some of it is predictable and mundane, some of it is feedback from my clients, and some of it is completely unexpected and totally out in left field. And let’s get one thing straight here before I continue…It’s okay to be out in left field, everyone has to be somewhere.
The most troublesome messages for me come from people who admit to being under psychiatric care and on medications. Red flags go up, not because I feel anything negative or threatening from these individuals, but because I’m immediately aware of the fact that I may be dealing with a very fragile human being. This means that I should be very careful of what I say, very careful of the types of choices and actions that I present to them, and very cautious about any statements that could lead them to stop the mundane medical/psychological care they are receiving. However, this does not mean that I should not be truthful with them, while at the same time giving them as positive a reading as I can, and leaving them with something to go forward and to build on.
The most unusual messages and requests I receive are from transsexuals, almost always men, all of them wanting to know if there is some magic spell to make them a woman, or to give them the power to go back and forth between being male or female. First, no, I tell them that I’ve never heard of this type of spell; and if there was one, it would most likely involve some sort of ‘shape-shifting’, rather than any solid permanent ‘in-the-real-world’ physical change. I also encourage these individuals to seek counseling, to get in touch with clinics who specialize in surgery for transsexuals, and to spend time examining their inner feelings and motives about this issue.
The most difficult messages and clients to deal with are people having mundane problems in their life, usually involving love or money, and they expect that a reading from me will solve these problems. I try to emphasize that I can give them an idea, and usually an amazingly accurate idea, of what the future will hold, what the road blocks will include, and which routes will be to their advantage. In almost all of these types of readings, any self-imposed stumbling blocks are usually exposed as well, and it’s very difficult to know when to reveal this information and just how much to emphasize it. It can be a very sensitive area for some people.
A woman hopelessly in love with the wrong man would rather have all her teeth pulled with no anesthetic than to be told that her true love is a scum bag and if she doesn’t ditch him and heal from the negative contact and abuse she’s suffered through his hands, she will continue to decline both physically and emotionally, and happiness will be something that everyone else gets to experience, but not her. Sometimes a reader can point out the obvious, but someone blinded by the strength of their emotions may not be willing to look at it. These people usually have to learn the hard way– and many of them have drug me along as their psychic, giving me a front row seat to this process.
People caught up in financial difficulties can be heart wrenchingly desperate. And unless you have experienced this predicament in life, you will not understand the depth and gravity of it. Johnny Carson was speaking on his show one time about wealth. He said,“The only thing that being rich does is to alleviate the worry about not having enough money.” Of course, what he was trying to emphasize is that all of the other usual human problems are still there. However, my thought was that he had been wealthy so long he had forgotten what a horrible burden it is to worry about money. All other human problems pale in comparison if you can’t pay your rent or buy food.
In situations like this, as with any other, the ups and downs, the possibilities and the pitfalls, will come through a reading. What will not come through a reading is a magical and instant fix to your financial situation. The tarot cards give us a picture of what was, what is, and what may be coming for the future– but we will still have to stumble along and live through this human condition one day at a time, and sometimes it’s a damn long rough road.
I’ve met some incredible people through my work, often people who have no idea how frustrating– or how inspiring– they are. As I continue to use my gift to enlighten and to enrich lives; I whole-heartedly accept the gift of enlightenment and enrichment that I receive back.
One of the things on my mind are tarot readings and people’s often unexpected reactions to what they hear. I’ve been informed that a lady I did a reading for was ‘offended’ by something I said. To tell you the truth, I remember the gist of the reading, but not absolutely everything that I said as I interpreted the cards. Let me explain how this process works for those who don’t know– for me, as I turn the cards and view the images, thoughts, perceptions, and pictures begin flooding my mind. You will get the best reading from me if I just open my mouth and start talking as I turn the cards and before the thought or image vanishes. This means that I can’t stop to weigh and measure every word that comes from my mouth during every minute of the reading. If I would do this, the process would not work, the rythm would be lost. I can’t pause and break my chain of thought to ask myself, “Would this person be offended if I tell them that they have a tendency to procrastinate to the point of ruining their own chance of success?”…Nope, can’t do it– if I read for someone, I will open my mouth and let it roll, whatever comes up with the cards will just have to come up. I wouldn’t be doing justice to the reading– or my client– if I have to weigh and measure how sensitive every stranger that sits across from me may be.
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