Anonymous Shout-Out to Ms. Stagnation

One of the women I did a tarot reading for at Next Millennium in October has been on my mind. I just can’t stop thinking about her; and there’s so much more I would like to say to her…so I will. I hope she see’s this, although it’s posted here anonymously, and I will guard her privacy fiercely– she will recognize herself.

The issue ~ she feels that the relationship she’s in is stagnant, that although they are in love and are happy with each other, it’s just not progressing. She took a call from her partner on the phone while she was seated at my table, and I can attest to the fact that their communication is sweet, gentle, and very loving.

So what’s the problem???

She told me that, because of previous experiences, she prefers to keep this man’s family (both the larger circle of his immediate family and his children) at bay, at arm’s length. She doesn’t want to get involved with them, she doesn’t want to have to “deal with all that”.  (This is where I figuratively slapped my forehead and thought to myself…”WTF!”)

Dear Ms. Stagnation ~

YOU are the one who is preventing the progression of this relationship.  It stops at the boundary you have put up.  You have built a very daunting and unsurpassable fortress around yourself.  If you are not able to step beyond the point you are now; if you are not willing to get acquainted more deeply with this man and his life; if you are not able or willing to integrate yourself into his family and daily routine (and allow him to enter yours), the relationship will either cease, or it will remain at the stagnant point you find yourself in right now.

Relationships are a gamble.  Falling in love is taking a chance.  That’s just the nature of the beast.  Some of us win the lottery and others may be disappointed and learn a few lessons along the way.  But if you never try, you’ll never know.  It’s up to you.

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How Not to Pick Up Chicks (@ my Other Blog!)

It had to be said.  I think this just might be a MUST READ, really!

Welcome to the modern single world. 🙂

http://everycathasatale.blogspot.com/2016/09/how-not-to-pick-up-chicks.html

 

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The Mother-in-Law Saga Continues ~ MIL#5

The mother-in-law saga continues at my Other Blog (Every Cat Has a Tale), which has just had a facelift, by the way.  It’s the last of this series, and hopefully the final conclusion to mothers-in-law period.  MIL#5 is up this week.  What did I learn from her?  Click  Here to find out. (PS ~ you have to Bring This Blog Post Up to make this link live)

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Mothers-in-Law ~ What I’ve Learned From Mine #3

And the saga continues.  It’s amazing, actually, that no matter how comfortable, or how trying, this relationship has been in my life, I’ve learned something from each and every one of these connections and these women.

Up this week, MIL#3.

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Mothers-in-Laws ~ What I’ve learned from mine.

About time!…a new post @ Every Cat ~ the 1st post in a series of 5.  The topic:  Mothers-in-Law.  I know this is a very mundane subject, and I’m posting this link on a very magickal blog.  But the topic is so universal, and there’s so many people who’ve had their own in-law experiences (good, bad, and ugly), that I think every one of us can learn something from someone else’s personal experiences.  It’s enlightening…to say the least.  You might be surprised– so often we learn the most where we expected to learn nothing.
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Woman Speak 3-6-2015

This week the goddess is Airmed. The topics are herbs and green witchcraft. Our project– we’re going to create a Witch’s Bottle for Love Magick. You’ll also find a section at this video on precautions for love magick, encouraging common sense, as well as the use of mundane efforts to keep your life running smoothly, and to keep yourself safe. The National Domestic Abuse Hotline number will be found at the end of this video.

Woman Speak 1-23-2015

The topics include: White Buffalo Calf Woman; Tarot/the 2 of cups; 10 tips for women– surviving the modern world. Relationships– Is your Ex badmouthing you publically? How you can deal with this situation, both on a mundane level and magically.

 

The Reality of Magick

A Question I received yesterday:

[sic] I I really need some help I really what you to make this boy have all the same classes with me and like me please I’ll. Doing anything please and I need it done today thx

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Oh my goodness, Sweetheart, real magick doesn’t work this way.  Where do I start?

First, You can’t “make” anyone like you.  Even though there are spells out there, love spells, that can draw someone to you (and a few darker forms of magick to bind someone to you); this kind of magick is always fraught with karmic repercussions– you think you want something, but what you get might be something totally unexpected and unsatisfactory.  And these kinds of spells are very hard, if not impossible, to reverse.  And anyway, you don’t want a young man to ‘like’ you just because you’ve used magick on him.  You want a young man to like you because he’s drawn to you naturally in some way. 

Second, I know of no magick spell to insure that you will be in the same place at the same time, hour after hour, day after day, with another human being– as in ‘all the same classes’.  Real magick doesn’t work the way you’ve seen in the movies.  1) it works in it’s own time-frame (sometimes with moon cycles) 2) it does not offer instant gratification and results  3) sometimes what we want isn’t always good for us, and there is a higher power (whether you call it God, Goddess, The All, or whatever), and this higher power has a clearer view of our destiny and what’s best for us, and even our most magickal endeavors will not manifest.

“I need it done today…”  The best magick is timed correctly with magickal correspondences– the moon phase, planetary hours, different days of the week for different energy and magick, etc. etc.  And, just to emphasize it once more, magick works with the laws of physics, magick moves energy in a natural way for beneficial change.  You can’t snap your fingers and produce instant results.

If you like this young man, and you would like to become friends, you’ll get a lot farther by 1) introducing yourself and starting a conversation  2) making a point to say hello when the circumstance presents itself  3) maybe finding out what kinds of extracurricular activities he’s interested in and then only if you’re interested in the same things, join the club or group.

Bright Blessings,
Amythyst

PS–

“I’ll do anything”…Oh, my.  This made me cringe.  There’s a few things you should *Never* do when it comes to love and relationships.

You should never compromise your principals.

In the course of a relationship, you should never lose your own identity. (Maintain a healthy ego and self-image; be proud of your strengths, your personality, your work, your achievements, your talents.)

You should never become involved in a relationship that will put you in the position of ‘victim’.

When you love someone, it’s natural (and usually positive and unselfish) to put them first, but don’t put someone else’s desires, wishes, plans, and expectations before your own physical, mental, and spiritual well being.

 

The Witch’s Desk: FAQ…Can you help me?

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All questions are posted as received, no editing (except to delete identities), as all questions are posted anonymously.  You can contact me through the submission form in the right column on the home page at my website The Witch’s Corner.

1.  Well I don’t really know how to cast a circle and there are some things about a money bottle I don’t understand and the mojo bag also help thank u

First, Witch’s Bottles

Witches’ bottles are an old form of magick wherein the spell, in the form of personal effects, herbs, and a variety of objects, are deposited in a glass jar or bottle. The container is then sealed up with wax and used in a variety of ways, depending upon it’s purpose. Money bottles can be kept near the front door where they are visible and handy, and you can grab them and give them a shake from time to time to keep the energy moving towards manifestation. Witches’ bottles for protection might be buried on your property, as near the threshold of your front door as possible. A wild and wooly bottle, meant to kick some magickal butt or get rid of a pesky problem, will be buried as far away from your land as is physically possible and reasonable. A bottle meant to conjure love, well, I’d tuck that beneath the bed, where the energy will pool and puddle, perk and boil, till the damn bursts and love and passion bloom.

You can use any kind of bottle that has a mouth large enough to deposit some of the more unusual items for your spell. My personal favorite is a glass bottle that contains my favorite cold coffee drink. I rinse these out and save them for Witches’ Bottles– the ultimate in recycling. They’re just the right size.

Witches’ Bottles are easy spells to cast, fun to put together, and long potent lasting magick.

Circle Casting…You’ll find a circle casting ritual at my website by clicking Here

To cast most magick, you will want to create sacred space in which to work; space that is cleansed, consecrated, and reinforced against negative energy and entities. This space will hold and contain magickal energy as it builds, until you are ready to release it into the universe, sometimes with explosive abruptness. This space will give you the reassurance of protection, so that you can concentrate on your spell casting or ritual, knowing that you are safe– physically mentally, and spiritually– knowing that nothing will interfere with you or the energy within your circle. This space will provide a place of beauty and serenity, in which to invoke Deity.

Whether or not the boundaries of your magick circle are marked with physical objects…a ring of stones, a silver cord, bouquets of flowers, or candles; you most likely will feel the invisible energy of this circle as a shift in temperature, the sensation of being closed within a small space, a tingling sensation on the soles of your feet, or a slight change of pressure around your head or inner ear. Some people experience a physical sensation within the circle, and others do not. It may depend on an individual’s physical sensitivity to various energies. Even if you experience no sensations within the magick circle, know that this space, when properly cast, is as solid and real and sacred as the most intimidating cathedral, or the quaintest neighborhood church.

Mojo Bags
…You’ll find more info Here

The magick of the mojo bag can be yours.  The ancient practice of combining spell ingredients for particular intentions in small bags and pouches is an ancient one, and a magick that has proved particularly powerful.  Mojo bags can be carried in your purse or pocket, tucked beneath your pillow, worn from a cord or chain around your neck, tucked in an enemy’s personal space, or even dismantled and thrown to the wind…You’ll know what to do.

I have a whole section in my online book devoted to mojo bags with directions on making your own with correspondences for a number of intentions…”These enchanting magickal charms can be carried and integrated into your life in a variety of ways. Mojo bags to enhance your dreams or to prevent nightmares can be tucked beneath your pillow, releasing their magick and fragrance right under your nose each night. Mojo bags for prosperity can be carried in your purse, rubbing elbows with your wallet or checkbook, bringing you success and plenty in the financial world. Mojo bags for love and employment, for protection and hexing, can all be created to move energy along, to invoke spirits, to create change, and to shake up the mundane world in a million different magickal ways.”

Some of the information above was taken from my online book, “Natural Magick the Gray Witch Way”

2.  Hello Amythyst this (Name Deleted) and you once did a reading for me and was about who thought at the time was my soul mate only to find out for my goddess Hecate my true soul mate is Gabriel and that the (Name Deleted) guy was just somebody I was sing to help. It turns out that I am still waiting for my true soul mate and I want him in my life and I feel alone and want somebody do love me too. I feeling confused with my life and want to know why my life. I want to know why I am never lucky with anything I do? I feel like I never get anywhere and I think more about helping other people but am to worried to help myself. I feel that if I try to make my life better that everything will not work out. I just want to be happy. I am not happy with the way my life is. Can you help me?

I see several questions within this question…

First:  Can I help you?…Basically, no.  Up to a point–  I can listen to you, I can encourage you, I can comfort you, I can advise you– I can read for you, I can make suggestions; but in the end, ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness, you are responsible for your own decisions, you are responsible for your own actions or inaction.

“I feel that if I try to make my life better that everything will not work out…”…So you’re saying that you’re so afraid of failure you’re not even going to try?  (If you don’t try, you’ll never succeed.)  Are you saying that it’s better to live a life of unhappiness and discontent, rather than to make the effort to change it?

One of the first questions to ask yourself is– What do I have to do to improve my life?  Think about every area of your life, from relationships, to employment, to spirituality, to health (both mental & physical).  Make a list…What do I need to do to improve my life?  How many things on this list are do-able in the short term, like now; and how many things on this list are long-term issues that you should start working on now in order to make the future better?  Once you’ve made this list, you can’t just sit forever and ponder on it, you actually have to get out there, contact the right people, and start things in motion.

One thing about this that irks me is the fact that women in general have a tendency to be thrown completely for a loop when a relationship doesn’t work out.  It’s sad, yes; it’s disappointing, yes; but it’s not the end of the world.  You need to be a whole and complete, happy and content human being on your own before you’re ready to enter into a relationship with anyone.  I actually think that some women benefit from a period of time on their own, time to find their center, time to learn about who they really are and what they really want out of life.  Some women need a period of time to themselves to gain confidence in their ability to fend for themselves, to make good decisions, to handle business, to delve into their creative sides.  Some women just plain benefit from time to themselves, period.

My advice?…Stop pining for this guy you broke up with.  Stop looking for spiritual mates in the ether world.  Concentrate on this world, this life– take the idea of potential partners out of the picture all together.  What do you want to do with your life?  You said that you wanted to help people– How do you do this?  Does this touch your soul and make you feel good inside, good about yourself, good about the world?  Concentrate on this aspect of life.

If you’re meant to find your soul mate, you will, when the universe and Spirit decide it’s time.  Stop wasting so much of your energy fretting over this issue.  In order to draw good things into your life, you have to surround yourself with and project positive energy– work on this.

Learn to love yourself.

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The Witch’s Desk: FAQ

I’m more than a little stupefied at the number of questions coming through the inbox– the form in the right column of the Home page for messaging– at my website (The Witch’s Corner).  There’s no way I can keep up with them all, so each week I’m going to pick and choose a few that strike me (posted as is, no editing).  These questions will be posted anonymously of course, always, your privacy is important to me.  I will also always be totally honest in my answers, sometimes maybe brutally so, and this means that the answer isn’t necessarily going to be what you want to hear or what you are expecting.  And with that said, I’ll start with the first question:

1.  i need to detox for a drug test iv done a fast befor a witch that use to live here made a spical potion water for a 3 day fast i dont rember what all was in it can you help

This boggles my mind on so many levels I don’t know where to begin:  First, get off the drugs– I know, this statement is a total waste of time, because this won’t happen until YOU decide to get off the drugs for YOURSELF.  I don’t know what you are taking, but this 3 day magickal potion fasting crap is a bunch of hooey; I do know that various drugs stay in your system for different lengths of time, and some can still be detected weeks and even months later in your hair follicles.  Second– why complicate your life with illegal drugs?  You can’t reach your potential while you’re plastering your system with a cocktail of chemicals it was never meant to handle.  It weakens your mind, your body; it steals from you the capacity for achievement; it has a negative effect on everyone who touches your life in any way.  It is a living death, it’s a trap…but there is a way out, a way to break the pattern, to break the chains that bind.  I hope you find it.

2.  Hey, I really need your help, my biggest dream is to be like you and ive been researching a lot on witchcraft but I want your help please im willing to do anything please help me! I want to practice witchcraft just as you do!!!

Your biggest dream should be to be like “You”…You are unique, your place in the universe and in the grand scheme of things is important, it’s priceless even.  New human beings may be born because of you, people’s lives will change and are touched, molded, expanded, enriched– because of you.  If you were not “You”, the picture would not be the same.  It’s wonderful that you wish to practice witchcraft, because it is a joyous empowering spiritual path, but you should embrace this path because of your own connection to it, your own spiritual awakening, your own realization of it’s ‘rightness’ for you and the positive implications it will have on your life.  If the path of the Goddess is right for you, all that I can do to help you is to encourage you to read, to keep learning, to explore through media, books, through meditation and reflection.  If this path is your path, you will know.

3.  Hi , I have been trying to register , the reason is they put a dot after com and their aren`t any please help me subscribe thanks 

You can’t register at The Witch’s Corner because I disabled that function.  When I set this website up, I had no idea that there was an option to set it up as a social site.  I guess it was that way for years, and I just left it– pretty much ignoring that feature, but within the past year I found and figured out how to disable this function.  It was never my intent to start a social site.

4.  How do I get a wand what do I have to do thank u 

Ah, the “Magick Wand”…getting a wand can be as simple as finding a beautiful twig from a tree laying in the grass, or it can be as uncomplicated as visiting your local new-age shop and purchasing one– I have wands that I’ve gotten both ways.  My first wand was a twig I found on the ground in the backyard, cast off in a summer wind by our beautiful Maple tree.  I consecrated it and decorated it with ribbons.  My other wand was purchased at a new-age shop and is made from a tree found only in Africa (though the name of that tree escapes me for the moment); it’s all polished and finished and really quite beautiful.  Both wands have worked for me; I love both of them; I use both of them; and the fact that one was a free gift from the Goddess and one was purchased at a store has really made no difference.

5.  Hello i am sorry to bother you but i was wondering if i could have some advice please. me and my partner are having trouble with his ex who is constantly interfering and stalking him which is beginning to put a strain on our relationship, she has a boyfriend herself but keeps sending my fiance messages like i love you and miss you like crazy etc even though they broke up over 2 years ago now. we fear if we say anything to either of them it may make the situation worse for us. me and my partner don’t get to see each other as much as we would like as he is in the army so is only about 2 weeks every few months but when we do see each other it’s sometimes ruined by her interfering. my fiance proposed on new years and she turned up to the place we were at and ruined the rest of our night. I was wondering if there are any spells i could cast to make her leave us be and re-strengthen mine and my partners love without harming anyone or anything coming back on me? witchcraft has run in my family for years my dad has been a witch for over 24 years now and i too practice the craft, but am having a little trouble with this situation. Any help would be much appreciated. Many Thanks

There’s so many red flags here that it’s hard to see the forest through the trees.  First, there’s a name for this woman– it’s “Stalker”.  Second, what’s the matter with this fiancé of yours, this big ‘ole army dude, why is he afraid to tell this woman to buzz off, it’s over, finished, leave me alone?  She’s been sending him “I love you” messages for two years?  If you say anything to “either of them” it would cause trouble?– how so, don’t you think her boyfriend would be interested in the fact that his girlfriend is declaring her love to another man???  The fact that this woman showed up on the night of your proposal and ruined the evening is very telling– 1) why wouldn’t your boyfriend tell her to take a hike; and if she refused, why wouldn’t he call the police to have her removed? 2) they are in close proximity of each other, which makes me suspicious.

Sorry, my dear, there are just too many holes in this story.  If your fiancé really wanted this woman out of his life, it seems he would be making more of an effort.  As far as magick spells go– you need spells for protection, to protect yourself– and it is only you that I’m concerned with here.  You need spells to protect you from the negative energy of this woman; you need spells to protect you from deceit, or to reveal a liar; you need spells to ward negativity in general; and you need spells to guard your living space.

You only see this man for 2 weeks every few months?  Me thinks you need to think on this one.  It sounds like this man is having his cake and eating it too.

 

Secrets of a Spiritual Feminist (part 1): Women, Sex, God, Relationships, & Life

(Note that sexual observations are made from a heterosexual point of view, because that is the only experience I have on which to base these observations.)

1. Sex is incidental to attraction. Sometimes women make love to men they find incredibly breathtakingly handsome, but other times they choose a man who is not. As a matter of fact, quite often they will choose someone who is not, which for some reason surprises people. Sometimes ‘safe’ is better than the other option; and sometimes it might have to do with a challenge or personal insecurities, though women often won’t recognize or admit that this element exists. It doesn’t help that our society and the media have given the undeserved label of ‘bad boy’ to the handsome men of the world. (Oh, those scoundrels, easy on the eyes, hard on the heart.)

2. Attraction encompasses something otherworldly, something intangible, something unspoken. I have no idea why I found R.K. attractive in ninth grade. I have no idea why I worshipped someone who treated me badly, was rude and obnoxious, someone who delighted in proving on a daily basis his superiority and his dominance of this…this what?…in ninth grade, idolizing someone from a far, or at least across the room, couldn’t possibly be considered a relationship. At any rate, this exemplifies woman’s downfall, our Achilles heel. It’s one big fat reason that we let men– and relationships– get the best of us. Damn, we have to learn to suck it up and be in control of our hormones instead of our hormones being in control of us.

3. Women like to be on top, and not just where sex is concerned. Just as the demon goddess, Lilith, Adam’s first wife, is reputed to have fled the coop because of this innuendo, so women ‘fly the coop’– abandoning relationships, homes, families, and careers, because of an innate desire to rise to the top, figuratively speaking. When not given this opportunity, we will seek it elsewhere. It is a constant life-long quest. (Strangely enough, when men are driven this way it’s considered *Ambition*; when women are driven this way it’s considered *Obsession*)

4. Women don’t always like other women: fat women dislike skinny women; homely women dislike beautiful women; puritanical women dislike the hot and sexy sexually liberated woman (their name for her is whore). Women band in groups to dislike another woman or group of women– it’s true, you know, that there is strength in numbers. And when women get together to do their evil best to down a fellow member of the female sex, it can be every bit as brutal, deceitful, and bloody as the most vicious fist fight among men. (Although the ‘bloodiness’ is more figurative than literal, and the wounds go much deeper.) I can’t help but feel that jealousy plays into our lives far more than we are aware, or far more than we are willing to admit, even to ourselves.

5. God sucks. The patriarchal stereotypical testicular god of the so called ‘mainstream’ world societies, that is. He is also a trouble-monger, a spoiled brat, and totally impotent when it comes to just about everything. In the face of what people consider ‘His creation’, he’s like an inept husband who doesn’t know which end of the screwdriver is which, a guy who has to call someone to take care of every piddly little thing that goes wrong around the house; except that he, or “He”, doesn’t seem to have anyone to call, so the world goes to hell in a hand basket while he calmly states that it is ‘his will’– (yes, dear, I meant for the north wall of the house to collapse, I meant to remove that support beam…it was my will) Ya, right.

6. I hate it when I want to send an email to a female friend and she shares an email address with her husband. Typically it’s older women who do this. I’ll send them girly things anyway; I figure if their husbands don’t want to get my emails they’ll either give their little woman permission to set up her own email account, or they’ll block me (and one did). I always suggest that these women get their own account, though I haven’t seen this happening, and I don’t understand it at all. One woman I know of is basically computer illiterate and her husband gave her the idea that it was “Her Fault” the computer froze up, rant and rave, rant and rave…so of course, now she’s scared to death to touch the damn thing at all– and I have to wonder, cynical ole’ me, if maybe this isn’t what he was hoping for.

 

The Witch’s Corner: Updates & More

Tarot:
Card of the Day

Eight of Swords

Someone is feeling trapped in a situation they see no resolution to. Does this mean that you give up trying to find the right answer? No. I believe that part of this problem could actually be too much introspection and not enough honest evaluation. Stop thinking of yourself, and start looking at what this situation is doing to the other people involved. Once you become aware of it, your concern for someone else may help you to arrive at the right conclusion faster.

Today’s Correspondences:

Tuesdayplanet, Mars; element, Fire; color, orange, herbs– hot (peppers, cloves, cinnamon, etc.), red or orange flowers.

Today’s energies are aggressive, warrior like, in your face, strong and persistent. This doesn’t seem very conducive to Valentine’s Day and romance, does it. But actually this is the day traditionally used for magic and spells connected to marriage. You would think that Venus would have this honor, but it makes sense. Friday/Venus is connected with that first fairy tale/prince charming aspect of love, it’s always gentle, obsessive, slightly insipid, and very fragile. Marriage, on the other hand, takes a lot of work and courage to stay successful. It’s earthy, sometimes messy, often tumultuous, and definitely not for the faint of heart. It often takes a warrior like determination to make it work. Mars is the perfect energy.

The Witch’s Corner:
Updates

Small but powerful. These adorable
poppets are packed with magickal energy,
and they come in a spell bag that includes:

the poppet
3 coffin nails
3 straight pins
1 taper candle
herbs & incense

Click Here

 

Alpaca silver bracelets have been restocked and the enchantments have been updated:

1. To Clear Crossed Conditions
2. Money Mojo
3. Guardian Angel Enchantment
4. Domination Enchantment
5. For Better Business
6. True Love Mojo
7. Keep Evil Spirits at Bay
8. To Trouble Your Enemies
9. Enchantment of Self-Empowerment
10. Good Health Mojo

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A Brief: things I love & things I hate

*Note: I may be re-posting a re-post. Quite honestly, I’ve written so much that I don’t remember what I’ve posted where anymore. However, I may have a few things to add to this– yes, I believe I do. I re-read this while having coffee this morning, and there was just something about it that scratched the itch in my soul.

 
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Things I like and why…maybe.
 
I love moonlight— I remember laying on Grandma’s couch in the bay windows of her large kitchen one summer night and raising up in the dark to hold my arms out in the moonlight that was spilling through the glass. My arms looked all puny, and white, and ghostly, and the moonlight felt good on my skin…the same way some people claim that the sun feels good on theirs.
 
Chocolate…this is a mandatory like for all females. It contributes to our feelings of well-being, our energy level, and our rear ends, but in a good way. 😉 It’s used to alleviate guilt, stress, anger, and jealousy. It soothes the soul and adds to the ambiance of our lives– sort of like a gentle ‘Ommmm’, or one of Deuters CDs.
 
I love autumn. I love the beautiful and vibrant colors- golden hues, maize, browns, tans; the warm colors- shades of orange and red. The smell of dry autumn leaves in damp earth is one of my favorite scents. I love deep blue autumn skies as a backdrop for the trees. I love the sound of geese overhead, flying south; the influx of wild birds and squirrels at our feeders; the crisp mornings that are a balm from a hot summer; the bounty that comes with a garden harvest, pumpkins and gourds. I love the occasional foggy, chilly, mist-in-the-air, gray day. I love the primeval urge to bake spicy breads and pies; the smell of hot coffee; and the warm golden puddles of light from my candles, which were lit early to soften the growing darkness.
 
 
 
 
blackcat.jpg picture by witch_of_endoreCats…they wreak of mysticism, they know what they know, and they keep secrets. Cats don’t pressure you for emotions you don’t feel like showing. They know when to crawl into your lap and seek your attention and affection, and they know when to retreat into the shadows and leave your space open and clear. Cats walk with spirits and commune with fairies; they don’t encompass magick, they are magick.
 
I love rain…I love the smell of it, the sight of it, the sound of it. I love the dark steel gray days that go with rain. I love the cozy solitude found indoors on rainy days- someone hunkered over a book in a pool of lamp light; a pretty teapot, full of jasmine tea, nestled on a trivet; cats curled into furry balls on the couch and kitchen chairs. I love the way drops of rain slide down the window-panes. I love the rumble of thunder in the distance and loud claps of thunder overhead. I love the way tree trunks look darker and more well-defined and sidewalks smell of damp forest pathways.
 
 
 
 
Things I hate— and yes, it’s perfectly okay to ‘Hate’ something. It’s an honest human emotion, like love and lust, only no one wants to acknowledge it because we were raised in a mostly Christian society that attempts to pigeon hole human emotions and appetites as ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Yep, you go right ahead and hate anything you feel a hankering to hate. Once in a while we hit on something to hate and we hate it so much it gives us enough gumption to change it.
 
I hate the dead of winter…it wreaks of hopelessness and the fact that there’s no way out, because none can be seen at this point. It’s not early enough winter to look pretty, and it’s not near enough spring to look hopeful– it’s just plain dirty and cold, gray and dark.
 
I hate a liar…My grandmother told me that this is one of the most dangerous creatures walking the planet. The very nature of what they are makes them impossible to fight.
 
I hate the idea of legal marriage. It is absurd to think that you need to receive a sanction of approval from a judicial system to be seen by the world as a legitimate couple. Not only do you have to pay a fee to obtain a ‘license’ so that someone deemed ‘legally qualified’ can marry you. Should the marriage not work out, you have to pay a great deal of money to this same judicial system so that you can extricate yourself from what I consider a personal relationship. As far as I’m concerned, Wiccans finally got it right with ‘Handfasting’…after all, if you know that the other party can end the contract with no fuss every year and a day, seems like everyone might work harder to keep the magic going. This sure beats the hell out of the Christian alternative– you stay with someone forever, until you die, whether you’re happy or not.
 
I hate “Mean Girl Mentality”. This phenomena is usually sistered up with “Group Mentality”, and when you put both of these disease ridden syndromes together, it becomes lethal…lethal to common sense, good manners, and courtesy.
 
 
 
 

 

Quote for the day:

People spend a lifetime searching for happiness, looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.
 
 
~ Romana L. Anderson
 
 

Women, Friendships, & Observations

Women tend to be incredibly territorial where friendship is concerned, and the cardinal clique that two work together better than three is absolutely true most of the time– sad, but true. For some reason men don’t seem to suffer from this odd social behavior. I’ve never heard one story about a man who became jealous because his friend Fred was buddying up and going off on a jaunt with Joe. If Fred was a friend, Fred was a friend– period. Whatever Fred wanted to do with his time and whomever Fred wanted to do it with didn’t seem to matter one iota. And the friendship between these men would continue for years, and years, and years on a level equilibrium, with nary a bump or rut in the road. As a matter of fact, not only would it continue, but it would grow to include an ever widening circle of individuals to add to the list of ‘Friends’, on both sides of the coin.

When it comes to friendship, some women are like tomcats who pee on their territory to mark it, seeing every other woman as an invasive threat to their special connection with one individual. They become catty, jealous, spiteful, hurt, distant, snooty, sometimes vengeful, and just downright childish. Some of them may keep a mental checklist of every ‘indiscretion’, sizing things up as two nights out this month, one excursion to the mall, and a gathering I wasn’t invited to, etc., ad infinitum. Why women do this to themselves and to their friends is a mystery to me.

Look at it this way– as a mother you can have more than one child, and when you do you love all your children equally. Women have this capacity– everyone has this capacity. We can have a variety of friends with different personalities and interests, with different levels of intimacy and activities that we share, and we love them all, even if we love them for different reasons and in different ways.

A Body of Work

 

Some of the following commentary and excerpts from various essays have been posted before, here or there, can’t remember all where.  Some of them may have made their way into a newsletter or two, others are reposted from my Myspace blog.  All of the following work is original, from Lady Amythyst, direct from Hedgewytch Hollow and The Witch’s Corner.

The following essays and commentary are my own and are copyrighted. You can not reproduce this body of work in any form without my written consent. Contact Lady Amythyst at: witch_of_endore@yahoo.com

© 2006 Amythyst Raine, The Witch’s Corner

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Are you empathic?

Most people have a certain amount of empathy (sympathetic feelings) for other human beings and even animals. It is this natural empathy that stirs compassion and in turn sets in motion good deeds, well-wishes, prayers, assistance, and mercy. But being empathic goes one step further. An empath can ‘feel’ or ‘sense’ the emotions of those people around them. When someone is talking face to face with an empath, the substance of their words will shine in bright contrast to their true feelings. An empath will know when you are lying to them. They will actually feel your dislike or approval, acutely. An empath will pick up the smallest of nuances in the expression of the eyes, the twitch of a facial muscle, an almost unnoticeable inflection in the voice.

But aside from keen awareness to these physical cues that most people are oblivious to, an empath will be able to feel someone else’s emotions as though they were their own. This phenomenon is amplified in large crowds and can become overwhelming and uncomfortable, as well as physically draining; which is why many empaths learn, over the years, how to block and shield themselves from other people’s emotions. It’s a necessary survival mechanism for many super-sensitive empaths. It’s also why some avoid circumstances involving large crowds of people.

Being empathic brings a different dimension to how you view the world, how you feel about specific people and circumstances, and decisions that you make. Would you want to know how certain people in your life really feel about you? About decisions and choices you have made? Would you like to feel other people’s approval, admiration, dislike, envy, disapproval— all without a word spoken? This is not always the blessing many people think it would be. It often sends you on an emotional rollercoaster. The phenomenon of this quirky psychic overload certainly reveals your true friends, but it also reveals adversaries that may wear the cloak of friendship, ulterior motives, as well as other shocking revelations.

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(The following is an excerpt from a longer work…)

About being grounded and at peace…for me that’s something that has come with time and age. I’ve been through three divorces in my life, uncertainty, fluctuations– financial, spiritual, mental, a variety of paths, faced a number of irritating obstacles, etc. I finally *arrived*…that’s what it feels like to turn 50. I don’t know why people dread aging and especially dread middle-age. This has been the best time of my life. I know who I am, what I believe, what I want out of life, the path I desire. I like myself, my world, my choices, and the energy around me. It’s a hoot!

About men and commitment…This is the one thing I would change about my life if I could go back and make different decisions. I would choose to find myself first, to be a whole person on my own. I would strive for financial independence, spiritual freedom, dreams and goals that were mine alone. Only then would I choose to take on a partner and become one of a pair– and even then, I’m sure I would insist on maintaining that unique mental independence that makes me who I am.

Commitment is a strange thing. It means different things to different people. I have one lady who is absolutely tormented at the fact that her lover, who recently went through a devastating divorce, won’t marry her. At the other end of the spectrum, my Aunt has been with her man for almost 40 years. They were never legally married, but they are more committed to each other than many people I’ve seen who are. Commitment doesn’t necessarily come with a slip of paper from our judicial system– it comes from the heart.

Christianity has warped our sense of humanity with it’s myriad rules and policies that try to dehumanize us. Not every relationship is meant to be ‘forever’. It’s a rare thing, as a matter of fact. I’ve only seen two couples in my life who were true soul mates and were in love and happy with their relationship until the end of their lives. I’ve seen many more who lived out a miserable existence, barely tolerating each other, because they believed it was expected of them.

Anyone lucky enough to find love should enjoy it while it lasts, whether it’s for a season, a life time, or a fleeting miraculous minute.

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(The following is an excerpt from a longer work…)

About ‘being out’…I’m so used to being Pagan that I really don’t think anything about it, no more than if I were Lutheran or Jewish or whatever.

My mother is a witch. She has never tried to hide what she is and yet she has never deliberately flaunted it. But anyone walking into her home would know immediately that she is not Donna Reed.

My dad is a shaman, the ‘ole gray wizard’ he calls himself. They live in Loveland, Colorado, and he hikes the trails in the Rocky Mountains as if it were his own backyard. He climbs up above the treeline to perform solitary rituals. He says there’s nothing like it.

My grandmother was a women fascinated by the occult. I grew up surrounded by books and conversation on astrology, numerology, and a wide assortment of paranormal topics. She was forever checking her astrological charts before any major decisions or doctor’s appointments. She had her own little ‘rituals’ and odd things she did, but she never would have thought to fit herself with the title of witch. I think that’s funny.

My youngest sister practices witchcraft, as well as two of my cousins, and three of my own daughters.

I guess, growing up with paganism, I didn’t always realize how ‘different’ it would seem to people. I know that sometimes I get some strange looks from someone here or there, and I know that when people meet me, some will like me and others won’t– but that’s the way it goes. And those that don’t like me may not have liked me if I were pagan or not, or they may not be worth the effort it would take to get them to like me…insidious little circle, isn’t it?

Since I home school, I’ve never run into the grade school and high school ‘Mean Girls’ with my children– thank Goddess, I had enough of those when I was in school…needless to say I never fit in, I was always a little odd, but they couldn’t put their finger on exactly why. lol!!

I find that the older I get the less I care about other people’s opinions. I also find that Pagan Rights is becoming a more and more important issue for me. I hope I don’t offend anyone– but I think that Christianity is one of the worst things to have happened to the world. It’s such a do or die, my way or the highway, unforgiving institution. It’s a bully.

I must say that the worst case of disrespect and bigotry I’ve experienced has come from my husband’s family. They are an ultra-conservative Iowa farm family who has nothing to do with us because I am a “Witch”– I figure good for them, that’s one less holiday meal I’ll be responsible for. I don’t have to listen to my husband’s sisters-in-law whine, I don’t have to put up with his brothers’ moods and life goes on here in our little household with a peaceful grace.

I guess I’m comfortable with my path and with who I am, so much so that I don’t think about it all that much. I imagine, being raised in this house, that my children will be the same way.

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To Whom It May Concern:

Publicly, you say all the right things; you display all the right images. You nurture a magickal persona, a nuance. You portray yourself as an authority on everything, and you have tricked other people into believing that you are just that. You act as an authority of steel that smacks down free thought for everyone but yourself…”My way is the only way.”…How many religions and cults and egotists have spouted those words?

At first I was charmed and awed by you, just as everyone else. But then I began to notice little chinks in the public persona, just little things at first, but enough to put a spark of doubt about you in my mind.

Then Jerry Falwell died and you posted a blog about his death.

As a pagan, he was about as far removed from my world and the spectrum of my spirituality as he could get. I didn’t pay any attention at all to this man—until he died and you posted that blog.

I was shocked.

The viciousness of your words, the complete lack of humanity was appalling. It was the epitome of bad taste and poor judgment and showed a complete lack of compassion for a fellow human being. It was vicious and mean. This blog grated against all the other quiet authoritarian, “wise woman”, sage words that you had posted before…and, as I rightly suspected, this was your real voice.

You slipped up here, exposing your real personality, if only briefly. But I knew it was only a matter of time until the artificial veneer that you nurture so carefully would crack, exposing the genuine ugliness that lay below.

Jerry Falwell? I didn’t know him, didn’t follow him, and probably would not have given his death a second thought—but then I read your blog.

Regardless of his religious beliefs or his politics…he was merely another human being among the millions on earth. He was a man slogging through life as we all are– rising to an alarm clock, driving through traffic, paying his taxes, brushing his teeth.

And then he died.

Now he was a man who would never hold his wife again, never dance at a grandchild’s wedding, never offer a comforting hug to his children, never watch a sunset, have coffee with a friend, or pet a dog. Strip away from him all the labels society placed upon him, and it simplifies things tremendously…

He was a man who died.

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It’s Name is Fear

I can feel something lurking near me, something insidious and full of guile and malice. It’s a sheer white mist that has its origins deep within human minds, curling and twisting its way from eyes to arms to fingertips, to computer keys. It creeps like a fog, swirling around desks and keyboards, creeping around still bodies caught in rapt concentration, their faces illuminated by the screens before them.

And it speaks…”you can’t”, “you must”, “thou shalt”, “thou shalt not”, “you will be punished”, “you will be sorry”, “tremble before me”…

It is the ghost of Christianity wearing a cloak of narrow-mindedness. And slinking along close behind it is a twisted, ugly creature, its predatory eyes darting here and there, searching for prey. Its name is Fear.

Its eyes suddenly open wide in shock and recognition—there is a being too elusive for Fear to touch. It senses her very near now and a shiver runs through its crippled frame. He sees her then. She steps from the shadows of the trees, tall and proud, the soft breeze gently lifting her hair. A flicker of emotion changes Fear’s eyes for the briefest moment.

This being raises her arms, slowly spreading her hands, her fingertips. She empties her lungs and takes a deep breath and can instantly feel the tingling on the souls of her bare feet as the energy of the earth is drawn upward, into her body. It rises swiftly, coming faster and getting stronger until it makes the skin on her legs rise in goose flesh. It begins to rush upward, through her thighs and her pelvis, her torso. Her arms begin to tremble, her hands to shake—the energy overtakes her and she turns the palms of her hands toward Fear.

For a brief instant his grotesque, deformed face reflects his own persona…and then he disappears in a shattering of colored particles, dispersed in time and place.

The witch drops to her knees, overcome yet with the energy still coursing through her body. She gently places the palms of her hands flat on the ground and feels the release and rush as the energy returns from whence it came. Her shoulders slump and she sighs in relief.

It is done.

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“Sisterhood”…my thoughts

A Sister, should be a Sister, should be a Sister…*Forever*, it’s not a ‘when-I-feel-like-it’ thing, it should not rely on the conditions of outside influences, human frailities/insecurities/or pettiness.  A Sister is someone you grow old with; and on your way to this destination, you pass all the other stages of life– bumpy, smooth, unpleasant, and joyous…and you know, without a crumb of a doubt, that your Sister will travel this road with you, shoulder to shoulder– to the end and beyond.