Woman Speak 2-6-2015

Come plant rosemary with me…the Goddess is Thalia, the herb blessed Rosemary. Where ever you might live, whether on an acreage, or in an apartment, plant a garden to invoke goddess energy. Here’s what to plant at the four corners and at the elemental quarters. And what shall we put in the center?…let’s find out.

 

Pagan Musings Podcast: 2-15-2015

Mark your calendar!

Sunday, March 15th, 7-9pm CST , I’ll be a guest on Pagan Musings Podcast (blogtalk radio)

Click on the link in the text to hear the show!

 

Woman Speak 1-23-2015

The topics include: White Buffalo Calf Woman; Tarot/the 2 of cups; 10 tips for women– surviving the modern world. Relationships– Is your Ex badmouthing you publically? How you can deal with this situation, both on a mundane level and magically.

 

The Spiritual Feminist: top 100 in 3 categories @ Amazon!

Update!…”The Spiritual Feminist” has been in the Top 100 books in the categories of Religion & Spirituality…New-Age…and Goddess. Let’s keep it going! Under Amazon’s  Special Offers & Price Reduction: “Pre-order Price Guarantee! Order now and if the Amazon.com price decreases between your order time and the end of the day of the release date, you’ll receive the lowest price. Here’s how (restrictions apply)”.  Check it out– and PRE-ORDER!!
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Woman Speak

My Google Hangout: Woman Speak

Premiering: FRIDAY, January 9th, 3pm-3:30pm CST

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Explore the world of women, witches, and pagans on a variety of levels at Woman Speak. Reconnect with The Goddess. Find healing, empowerment, and sisterhood through Matriarchal Divinity. The topics are pagan, occult, new-age, paranormal, and supernatural. The topics will also center around feminism, relationships, family, careers, writing, and books…(Woman Speak– exploring women’s issues.)

 

*Note: to join me “live” and participate at Woman Speak, you have to be on my Google Friends list.

The Witch’s Desk: Women Learning to Trust Women

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I watched a wonderful DVD series this week highlighting the birth of feminine spirituality.  It was full of all the inspiring women of the time– Starhawk, Jean Bolyn, Merlin Stone, Shekinah Mountainwater, as well as a score of other eloquent and beautiful Ladies (authors, activists, film producers, artists, etc.).  The main concept that struck me was the idea that the emergence of the patriarchal system, along with the fall of the goddess, all contributed to the erosion of feminine spirituality, the end of matriarchy, and its biggest impact was on women’s relationships with other women.  We lost the “Sisterhood”.  We became suspicious of each other.  Something was stolen from us, something almost intangible, something undefinable. The unity was gone, the respect was gone, the connection was warped and broken.

With the advent of the snake and the apple story, the whole women-are-responsible-for-the-downfall-of-civilization phenomena, respect and power, camaraderie and trust, were all lost for the women of the world.  The new patriarchal culture threw a dark shadow on womanhood, and it was contagious, contagious even to us, to women.  My mother and I talked about this once, how women behave towards other women, the back-stabbing, the bitchiness, the suspicion.  It was an accurate observation, and it left us to ponder.

Can it be repaired?  And if so, what can be done to fix it?

1.  We come towards each other already suspicious, suspicious of motives, intentions, sincerity…

and this crap involves all aspects of life– beginning with men (husbands, boyfriends, significant others).  Why?  Why don’t we trust other women in our lives with our partners, even when we have no legitimate reason not to?  Is it just a hormonal mating Neanderthal thing?  I hope not.  I’d like to think that we’ve evolved past this.  Maybe it’s our own insecurity– Are we attractive enough, are we too fat, are we too thin, are we satisfying sexual partners, are we successful enough, are we accomplished enough?  Is this other woman prettier, is she younger, is she more accomplished, more successful, more desirable?

We have to work at building and maintaining a healthy ego.  We have to learn to appreciate ourselves, to meet our full potential, to find the joy in life.  We have to learn to be all that we were meant to be; and we have to learn to be proud of this.  We have to learn to relish pride in ourselves.  This isn’t being egotistical; it’s being healthy, it’s being honest, it’s being strong.

2.  We’ve got backstabbing down to a fine art…

There is nothing worse than a hen-party that takes on a very dark energy when the hens start pecking at a missing sister.  Why do we do this?  And it gains momentum, it really does, as each woman in turn comes up with a negative observation, a piece of gossip, something that they would never dream of saying to the victim’s face.  Why?…enjoyment, in some weird and twisted way?…a primeval instinct to travel in packs, and to gang up on a member who doesn’t fit into all the correct forms, all the politically/socially correct boxes and niches?  Or is it a power play, since we still obviously possess pack mentality, and there has to be an Alpha female, so we’ll spar and battle until only one is left standing?

3.  There is no sense of “Sisterhood”, no sense of loyalty, real loyalty, the old-fashioned kind..

“I’ll be your friend till the end.”…what a beautiful sentiment, but I don’t believe a word of it.  It’s more like…”I’ll be your friend until you don’t conform to my idea of what you should be; I’ll be your friend until someone else comes along that I’m more infatuated with, I’m more in-tune with; until someone else comes along that satisfies me emotionally in the friend department, someone who agrees with me, someone who will follow me.  I’ll be your friend, until I don’t feel like it anymore.

I wrote a blog post a few years ago, in which I describe my idea of a friend and ‘sister’…

“A Sister, should be a Sister, should be a Sister…*Forever*.  It’s not a ‘when-I-feel-like-it’ thing; it should not rely on the conditions of outside influences, human frailties, insecurities, or pettiness.  A Sister is someone you grow old with; and on your way to this destination, you pass all the other stages of life– bumpy, smooth, unpleasant, and joyous– and you know, without a crumb of a doubt, that your Sister will travel this road with you, shoulder to shoulder, to the end and beyond.”

4.  There is no common spiritual ground (the goddess) in today’s culture, patriarchy dominates the scene…

I know that I’ve personally lost friends because of my spiritual path– from Jehovah’s Witnesses, to Christian Fundamentalist, to just plain Christians in the mainstream.  If we don’t travel the same spiritual path, apparently, we cannot travel together at all.  Why?  It’s joyous to share a friendship with someone who views life and spirituality in the same way, but that doesn’t mean we can’t embrace friends who forge different trails.  There can always be a general meeting place in the center of the forest, a sunny clearing where we can all lay aside our differences to gather together and share life’s experiences, and plans, and disappointments, and victories.

This is the hard part of this essay.  I feel that the reader will expect me to end with some magickal solution to this problem, some instant fix, and I don’t think this is possible.  In that case, it makes this blog post more of an observation, which leaves more questions here, at the end, than it did to start with. But I believe we have to look back, far into the past, when the Goddess ruled the earth and woman’s power was respected. We have to look back, far into the past, when society viewed woman, in all stages of her life, with reverence and awe.  We have to look back, far into the past, to an ancient time, when women had respect for themselves…and respect for their sisters.

 

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So What Kind of Spell Do You Need?

Putting a spell together takes some thought, some research, some planning, and some foot-work (particularly if you don’t have necessary items on hand and have to purchase them, or cultivate them from nature).  So start with a question:  What kind of spell do you need?

Okay, I have a volunteer– “Stacy”.  She has asked me to put a spell together for her to help her with issues of fertility;  and she has kindly agreed to allow the making of this spell to be posted publicly, though her identity will be kept secret.  (Thank you, Stacy!)

First, what does this issue involve deity-wise; what planetary and elemental connections are we talking about here; what sort of herbs would add the energy needed; candle color; timing; what sort of ritual to set this magic off– informal, most likely for a solitary practitioner who practices quietly; what other objects or ‘personal items’ would we need to collect; how would we finish this spell up– release the energy– dispose of the remnants (Or would we dispose of the remnants?).  Can you see all the questions involved in constructing a spell?  Can you see why the practice of witchcraft can be a lot of work?  It requires a vesting of our energy, our mental thought and attention; it can be time consuming, and it must be carried off to work in the first place– which means making the time to actually cast the spell.

It isn’t easy being a witch.  It’s not like the movies at all.  There’s no big ole’ magick wand that we can wave with a special word or two spoken and ‘voila, the spell is cast and magick happens immediately.  Get “real”, sez I.  Here’s how real magick works, get ready to roll up your sleeves and put your energy into it…

First, the Deity:  It might surprise you that I’m not going to choose one of the many goddesses who are connected to physical fertility; instead, I’m going to invoke the energy and spirit of “Papa Legba”.  This entity was greatly maligned recently on a popular television program, depicted as a cocaine snorting devil with an unquenchable thirst for pure human souls (babies).  It’s wise to remember that a lot of what you watch on tv is Fiction, and that creating a riveting story is part of the screen writer’s job.  The ultimate irony in this is that Papa Legba is noted, invoked, and drawn upon by women with fertility issues, he is actually the anti-thesis of his television portrayal:

Papa Legba is the famous, and infamous, spirit of the crossroads, often appearing as an old black man.  He’s a spirit from the West African Voodoo tradition, and you will find him under the guise of many other names, including:  Elegba, Exu, and Papa La Bas– his New Orleans incarnation.

 Papa Legba is a trickster who delights in practical jokes and word games, but he is also a spirit of amazing generosity and protective care.  He protects infertile women, removing obstacles to motherhood; and he assists the poor, often opening up paths and removing obstacles that hinder their growth towards prosperity.  It is said that Papa Legba stands at the crossroads with his shepherd’s crook, where he opens and closes access to life’s path.

Now that we’ve chosen the deity to invoke for the energy we need, what’s going to go along with him???

Ideally I would prefer to work with the energy of a full moon, or at least a waxing moon.  Papa Legba’s ideal days are Mondays and the third day of every month.  Mondays– perfect!– connected to the Goddess, women’s mysteries, the Moon, the element of Water, fertility, women’s physical and mental health.

Candle colors and altar colors would be red, black, and white (Also, ironically, these colors are connected with the three faces of the goddess: red, the mother; black, the crone; and white, the maiden.)  The unique thing about being notoriously eclectic is that it broadens my spiritual path, allowing me to make connections and magickal links to topics, energies, and entities that those aligned with only one tradition or magickal practice might not think about.

The main herb I want to use with this spell is the strawberry…but you can also incorporate other herbs in this spell, and I would suggest herbs and flowers that produce through abundant seeds, such as dill, dandelion, goober daisies, cherry tomatoes, etc.

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Okay, we have our deity, the timing, the colors, the herbs, now you have to decide what kind of magick you’re going to use, how are you going to process this spell and cast it.  I’m going to suggest a combination of candle magick with a mojo bag, using the remnants left over to create the mojo bag that will be kept in a safe and sacred spot…and we can even do something especially significant here.  Stacy, I’m going to speak directly to you now– go to one of those hobby shops (like Hobby Lobby or Michael’s), buy a small wooden box that you will paint and decorate yourself in a way that resonates with you and your idea of a baby; decorate this box in ways that connect with your deep desire.  To this box you can add baby booties, a bottle of baby lotion, a pacifier, a letter to this baby, and whatever else you have room for that will bring this child to life in your mind, that will make its existence real and solid, so that you can almost bury your face in his fuzzy fine hair and smell the scent– most importantly, you will add to this box the mojo bag full of spell remnants– the candle wax and ashes (if you burned any type of spell paper with it).  You could also add to the box small bags of the magickal herbs listed above.

Put this box in a very special and safe place, and have patience dear Lady, nature will work it’s own brand of magick at the perfect moment.

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Positive Affirmations from a Feminine Perspective

 

I will not allow other people’s opinions to form the image I carry of myself.

Not everyone will like you, no matter how much effort you make towards this end. You will have a myriad of people come through your life at various stages, people you will forge relationships with, people who you will meet in passing, people who you will meet through other people. Some will be your friends, others will be determined to be your enemy, and yet others will be indifferent. I run into a large variety of people in my life, many of them I meet in the process of doing readings. There was one lady who I will always remember because I knew, the minute she sat down at the table across from me, that she had already made up her mind not to like me. As I turned the cards and began interpreting them, she would come back with sarcastic comments to punctuate the reading. The reading became like a drama in comedy. After each interpretation, there followed a snide remark. I laughed, ignored the remarks, and continued the reading.

There will be people, usually family members or close friends, who will label you and try to stuff your little round body into a square hole. It hurts. They will try to paste upon you attributes of other people they know, most likely people that you are intimately connected to. How many times my grandmother told me in a burst of anger and frustration: “You’re just like your mother!” I liked my mother. So one day, after my grandmother had done this for the umpteenth time, I looked at her and calmly said, “Thank you.”

It’s of utmost importance to never allow other people to slap negative attributes upon your person, your mind, your soul. You know who you really are, and you may be the only one who does. No one else can tell you what you are like, how you feel, how you will react, what you will do next, how you will behave. They cannot do this to you…unless you let them.

I will connect with the universe through the Divine Feminine, and through that connection with my ancestors and the root of all that is me.

For centuries the Divine Feminine has been ripped from the heart and soul of womanhood, shrouded in stories of evil encompassing snakes and apples, betrayal and guilt. Womanhood needs to wrestle its freedom from this lie, to regain its strength and equilibrium through the power of the Mother Goddess.

Through the youthful exuberance of the Maiden, the fertility of the Mother, and the wisdom of the Crone, we have to pass on to our daughters the beauty of the feminine mystique, impressing upon them the reverence and respect that is its due. While the world still revolves around the decisions of men, it is woman who harvests its bounty through their children, their art, their writing, their dreams, and their strong sense of nurturing. It is woman who builds up; and through her spirituality and connection with the Goddess, woman can repair the damage of previous generations, building new futures and opportunities for her daughters.

With our strong and renewed sense of connection to the Feminine Divine, the most important thing we can do is to impart upon our fathers, husbands, brothers, and sons the strength, beauty, wisdom, and power of womanhood at its most pure. We can lead them back to the Goddess, who is, after all, their Mother too.

I will strive to maintain my independence: emotional/mental independence, physical independence, and spiritual independence.

You would think, after all this time, including a generation that came through the Women’s Liberation Movement, that women today would be assertive, successful, and most importantly– independent. That’s true for a lot of women in the 21st century, but not for all. Around the world, women are still fighting for basic human rights and dignity. They are still chained to archaic religious law, racial and cultural restraints, economic and financial bonds. Even in this country, there are fundamentalist movements that prefer to keep a woman secluded in the home, barefoot and pregnant, and under the dominance of a husband.

I know, I’ve been there, done that. I managed to break free of this predicament by finding the will to fight back and overcome the suppression when, one day, my then husband, incensed at my refusal to follow his wishes, was in my face, eyes bulged, shouting with a spitty lisp, “Obey me! I said you will obey me!” That did it. As I stared at the ugly expression and insolent lump of irate human flesh in front of me, I was repulsed, the spell was broken. I stepped back, smiled, and said, “No.” In that moment, I knew I was free. And he knew it too.

As a woman I will strive to have a strong work ethic, to embrace education and all the benefits that come with it, to improve myself wherever and whenever the opportunity presents itself. I will strive to learn a craft, to become an enterpreneur, to dare, to experiment, to discover, and to grow. I will be all that I can be, and then I will reach even higher.

(This essay is a work-in-progress. As I’m spiritually enlightened with future affirmations, I will post them here.)

 

Updates: The Bandit of Hedgewytch Hollow & Wytchy Observations

For several nights we’ve had a visitor to our back porch who raided the cats’ food bowls, left muddy foot prints all over the tables, and traumatized our kitty cats. The girls checked the porch the other night and, much to their surprise, they caught the culprit in the act. And here he is…

My daughter snapped this photo right through the glass on the back door– as you can see.

I guess it’s only fair that this little “Bandit” comes to visit and get his fill at Hedgewytch Hollow.

Observations, Just Saying…

1) The ‘Good Ole’ Boys’ system is not confined to the mundane world of mainstream society. Sadly, the “Good Ole’ Boys” system exists in the pagan world as well, and unfortunately, it’s left a lot of casualties in its wake.

2) The Real Housewives of (Wherever)…These women spend an awful lot of time, energy, emotion, and money trying to be ‘friends’ with people they don’t really like. And the point is???

3) Every pot of poppies that I’ve tried to grow dies. They appear to be in good condition when I purchase them at the greenhouse, but not long after transplanting, you can see the life being sucked right out of them– I want poppies, lots and lots of poppies spreading out all over the place, just like my grandmother had in her yard.

4) An awful lot of women spend an awful lot of time fixating on men– how they can catch one, why they lost one, will straying ones come back, how can they keep the one they’ve got, etc., ad infinitum. HELLOoooo! You will never reach your full potential if you expend every ounce of energy you have and hours of mental activity obsessing on this subject. Halt!– Stop!– put the brakes on.

I ask you:

If there were no men in the world, what would you be interested in?

Do you draw, paint, sketch, write, sculpt, or cook like a world class chef? Are you interested in horitculture– gardening, animals, sewing, designing– clothes, buildings (architecture), websites, interior design, or something else that I haven’t even thought of?

If you could do anything in the world you wanted to do, what would it be?

If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?

If you could live anywhere in the world, would you stay where you are, or would you move to another location?

If you could accomplish one major feat in your life…what would it be?

The newly designed “Home Blessing Kits” are posted and ready for sale. These kits are smaller than the original, which makes them more portable, easier to tuck into your magickal bag or purse– then off you go to cleanse and purify your neighbor’s house, your friends apartment, or that haunted empty lot across town. These kits come in four colors (green, orange, lavender, pink) and include: 1 bag of sea salt, 1 bag of hyssop, 1 white taper candle, 2 sticks of incense, and 1 small bottle of “The Witches Oil” (shown in the photo of oils below).

You’ll find Home Blessing Kits at Wytchy Wares, or you can go directly to Wiccan Kits & Boxes.

I finally got photos posted of the smaller bottles of magickal oils that I’m offering at my site: Break the Hex Oil (aka Uncrossing Oil); Money Mojo (aka Prosperity Oil); The Witches’ Oil; Banish the Spirits (aka Exorcism Oil); and Good Health Mojo.

These oils are $8.00 a bottle. However, I’m still selling the large no-nonsense jars of oil for anyone who likes to buy magick in a generous quantity. For more information, you can visit my online shop: Wytchy Wares. Or you can go directly to Oils/Potions/Powders.