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This blog post includes:
Making tinctures by Direct & Indirect method
A list of crystals & their properties
Unusual Tinctures ~
*Sealing a Curse
*Intoxicating Love
*Drawing the Line
*Protection for Your Child
*Uncrossing Tincture
*Cut the Tongue
*I’m the Boss (for spouse or boss)
*Money Drawing
Mojo… a little bit of this and a little bit of that — Graveyard Dirt, what’s the “scoop” on that, how do you gather it, where in the cemetery should you collect it from, cemetery etiquette. Honey Jar Spell, let’s do that… & more!
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The following is a brief excerpt from my book, The Divine Me. This is from a section titled “Facing the Mirror: How do you connect with your spiritual side?” This book is available at Amazon in print and kindle.
· Journal
I began journaling when I was twelve years old, inspired by Anne Frank. In my twenties, my journaling was sprinkled with more literary pizazz and the influence of Anne Lindbergh and her diaries and letters. (I also wrote terrific letters, “Your writing is so vivid, makes me feel like I was there!”, so I was told.)
Sadly, along the course of life, usually as I was passing from one phase into another, I have thrown away many of my earliest journals. However, there is a wide array of cheap spiral notebooks, leatherbound diaries, and note pads of various colors and design being held by a trusted family member, saved for the enjoyment and exploration of future generations of my family.
I do believe that the modern version of the old-fashioned idea of journaling is now called… a blog.
· Explore a spirituality you are unfamiliar with
If you didn’t skip the introduction of this book, which I do with books sometimes, you will know that I was touched by random connections with Catholicism; the desire to embrace Judaism (that Anne Frank influence again, I was thirteen at the time); and then I stumbled into witchcraft, without really knowing what I was doing, but hey, not completely guileless either, even if we didn’t have the internet, we had movies and tv.
I was raised in an open and welcoming atmosphere of spiritual exploration and discovery. How do you know what you believe if you’ve never studied all the options out there?
· Get acquainted with your spirit guides
During part of my journey on this pagan path, I was introduced to two of my spirit guides, in dreams.
The dark-haired cat lady: She resided in some sort of large helter-skelter kitchen, her countertops filled with bowls and cutlery and herbs and small bottles and jars and open cupboards and pots and pans all over the place… and cats. Cats of all colors sitting calmly on the countertops, stretched out on the floor under the table and lounging in a patch of sun by the window. All colors and sizes, wherever you looked. Cats, cats, cats.
She was small but thick, almost elfin, and her black and gray streaked hair was a wild untamed tangled frizzy mess, her nose was large, her features coarse but pleasing, her shoulders slightly hunched, with a hint of a widow’s hump.
She wore a long boldly colored shiny silk house dress, with lots of pink and geometric shapes and greens and yellows and blues.
As she busily tottered about her messy kitchen, seeing to the cats and the pot of steaming soup on the stove, she was talking to me, she was telling me wonderous and great things that would change my life. With her back to me, a large wooden spoon in her hand, slowly stirring her cauldron of soup, her words flowed. I was silent, and I listened.
The white haired goddess:
A woman was sitting on the floor a short distance from me, cross-legged, sitting so straight and tall, her back to me. I stood watching her, fascinated by a strange glow of light shining on her, illuminating her silhouette, casting a shimmer to her very long mane of silver hair.
I was in the presence of something very powerful and very sacred, and I knew that she had something important to tell me, possibly the most important thing I would ever hear.
I leaned in, cocking my head to listen intently. Her soft voice rose then, sounding calm and smooth, gentle and clear. She said: “Learn to control your mind.”
· Be still and listen to your inner voice
My inner voice has been with me since I was a very young child, only it was louder then, easier to hear. Sometimes I heard it over the voices of people around me, and sometimes it was a whisper close to my ear. It always made me pause, it still does; but now at my age, it comes and goes so fast, is so soft and fleeting, that I have to catch it like an elusive and mythical moth in flight.
Over the years, this voice has proven to be protective. It has cast a light on an intuitive instinct, it has warned of impending danger; it has caused me to change a course of action; it has told many a story and revealed many secrets during tarot readings; and possibly, and most disturbingly, it has announced impending death.
When this happens, the warning of impending death, this inner voice has always used the same words: “Look, look again.”
· Find Your Tribe
I couldn’t find my tribe, not in childhood, not in high school, not in the adult world, so I grew my own. Six daughters and one son.
They are a tribe of mostly women, only one tall quiet man among them. They are diverse, and intelligent, gifted, and creative. They are uniquely independent and solitary.
Each one has a personality that is unlike the others. They travel different spiritual paths; they hold jobs in diverse areas of expertise; they are homeowners; apartment dwellers; and still, surprising as it may seem at my age, some are young enough to be fledglings, just learning to spread their wings.
This is my tribe.
No matter the physical distance between us; no matter the different schedules and lifestyles; no matter the amount of time that’s passed since we last talked, we can bring daily life to a pause and reconnect at will.
· Give with no expectations
When I was eighteen, a very elderly man gifted me a beautiful sterling silver ring and bracelet of turquois. He was my great-great Aunt’s life partner. His name was Frank Petticord. There was no special occasion, there was nothing expected in return. He just saw this beautiful set of jewelry, and he thought that I should have it.
Forty-six years later, I still have the bracelet, and I think of Mr. Petticord whenever I wear it. The ring was lost, only a few years ago. It disappeared from my bedroom one day, never to be found.
Frank’s story is a rather sad one. In the early part of the twentieth century, he came home to his wife and kids one day to be greeted by his father-in-law, who threw him off his own property. Frank seemed quite surprised at this turn of events, totally caught off guard.
Mr. Petticord was such a sweet docile soft-spoken man, I can’t imagine what the reasons were behind this event, but never-the-less he lost all contact with his children, who were kept from him. His family, in this final stage of life, was my great-great Aunt, my great-great Aunt’s daughter and her son, my grandmother… and me.
This jewelry is one of my most precious possessions. RIP Frank.
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This is one of my personal favorites, a book that I experienced and wrote at the same time. I languished delightfully in all the possiblities of this spiritual realm, and the possiblities that I wanted to tell you about. Let’s just say it’s a journey that we’ll take together, and it’s a journey that I’ve been working on for six decades. This is a book that will help you explore a segment of spirituality that you might not have even realized exists. This book will lift the veil, exposing ancient secrets and remarkable choices that are yours to make. It also does something that is often overlooked for pagan and occult paths, it puts a spotlight on just how normal and beautiful, enjoyable and uplifting this ancient of ancient spiritualities can be. If you haven’t picked up a copy yet, you’ll find this book at Amazon, in print and kindle. The print edition is in full color and is gorgeous, and you’ll find lined pages so you can add your own notes.
The Little Handbook of Spiritual Awakening includes:
The Spiritual Journey
Exercises, activities, & explorations: creating your personal journal; exploring gods and goddesses; reconnecting with animals and trees; taking a spiritual nature walk
The Witch’s Spirit
Exercises, activities, & explorations: exploring earth, air, fire, and water; how to write your own spell; creating a magical recipe; a look at neo-pagan founders
Preparing for Your New Spiritual Life
Exercises, activities & explorations: getting rid of baggage; drawing positive energy to you; forgiving yourself with a blessing; opening your energy centers
Botanicals and Pagan Spiritualism
Exercises, activities, & explorations: making four thieves vinegar; making black cat oil; growing your own herbs; blessing your garden
Pagan Spiritual Practices
Exercises, activities, & explorations: house cleansing; a basic candle spell; how to use a pendulum; setting up your personal altar
Introduction:
Everyone’s spiritual journey is unique unto them. My grandmother had me secretly baptized in the Catholic Church, against my parents’ wishes, when I was seven years old. I remember the pink frothy party dress, standing at the fountain and bending over so a robed man could sprinkle salt on my tongue and pour water over my head.
This baptism would herald an on again off again connection with the Catholic Church at my grandmother’s whim, including a 7th and 8th grade stint in a Catholic Parochial school.
At thirteen, I wanted to be a Jew.
Every Friday evening, I secretly lit a brass candelabra of white birthday cake candles in my bedroom and recited words of my own design, in order to honor the Sabbat (is that the right word?)
At seventeen, consumed with romantic revenge, I cast a nasty magic spell in secret in my grandmother’s basement. It involved red candles, red ink, and a photograph of the boy. It involved some emotional words, spitting, and a dramatic moment when I drew a large red X over the midsection of the image.
It worked.
And with this spell I felt, for the first time, total satisfaction with a spiritual path, a spiritual experience, and all the fallout that followed.
It scared me silly at the time, but it also reinforced in me that I was cut from a different spiritual cloth than most people in my circles. I was certainly different, although it would take years of reading, learning, and practicing to realize just how different.
What did I learn from my experiences?
I learned that, spiritually, there are a lot of options out there. I learned that it’s fun to explore. I learned that it doesn’t matter what other people believe, or how they choose to practice their spirituality, even if they think it’s the only way. I learned that you never stop learning, and the paths you can take are endless, amazing, surprising, unpredictable, and life altering.
Now it’s time for you to explore your spiritual path. This book will help you do that.
Keep an open mind, believe in the unbelievable and the unseen. Don’t be afraid to tread where other people fear to go. Don’t be afraid to explore the deepest parts of yourself. Believe me, when you finally find your ground, the journey will have been well worth it.
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The following is an excerpt from my book The Spiritual Feminist, published by Moon Books, an imprint of Collective Ink, previously known as John Hunt Publishing. This book is available at Amazon in both print and kindle. Be prepared to get well aquainted with the Goddess and her many faces from cultures all over the world, through the maiden, the mother, and the crone, up close and personal. You’ll also join me on our journey of womanhood, through all its stages and phases. We’re all in this together, as the saying goes, creating a world-wide sisterhood.
Shitala
Her Story:
Shitala is the Hindu goddess of disease, attributed with the creation of small pox, among other insidious maladies. Ironically, it is Shitala you call upon to cure illness, to cleanse the body of disease. What a paradox this goddess is! She despises filth and dirt. When invoking Shitala, you must physically cleanse your home or sacred space, and you must have a ritual cleansing bath before beginning. To disregard these actions would mean an unsuccessful invocation.
Healing Candle Spells
For physical maladies, go with the Element of Earth, the color green and all the other correspondences that are connected to this element and this type of magick. (You’ll find correspondences for the elements, as well as other information to help you craft your magick and cast your spells, at the end of this book.)
But there’s so much more to it, and there are so many ways to be ill, or other reasons people need healing:
For mental illness, you will call upon the element of Air, and your candle color will be yellow. For a victim of physical violence, or sexual abuse, you’ll use the energies combined of Earth (green for physical healing), Air (yellow for mental healing), and Water (blue for spiritual healing). For someone who is terminally ill, you will call upon Spirit, and your candle will be white. It will ease their passing and light the path for their journey to the other side. It will invoke their spirit guide, who will take them by the hand, helping them travel safely as they cross over.
Household Blessing
The tools…
white candles; sage, or a cleansing incense like sandalwood, and a bowl or holder for this; bells, if you fancy them; a broom, for symbolism and to “sweep” away negative energy from each room; a bowl of salted water to asperge (sprinkle) each room, as well as every nook and cranny.
The method…
I start from the bottom and go up, so begin in the basement, if there is one, or the lowest floor. Basically, you’ll go from room to room, cleansing it of negative energy, moving it out and “sweeping” it along until you push it right out of the house with the last room or space you clear.
Enter a room, demand the negative energy and ghosties (or other spirits) leave. Walk clockwise around the room with the salted water first, dipping your fingers in it and sprinkling the space as you go. Then do the same with the incense, smudging the rooms, making sure that you include any closet space or cubbies. Energy lurks in these spaces, you know. That’s why children, who are more in-tune with it, are often afraid of these little dark closets and corners. For a final flourish, and to make your point to the spirits or other entities trying to take over this space, use the broom to symbolically “sweep” the negative energy right out the door. Sweep from east to west in large whooshes. The broom doesn’t even need to touch the floor. After all, you’re literally sweeping a space, not the floor itself. Make sure, as you do this, that you are ordering the spirits to leave, that you are reclaiming this space, and that you are in charge. Put some emotion into it!
As a side-note, don’t be alarmed if you feel a rush of goosebumps up your legs as you’re doing this. It’s nothing scary, and it’s nothing that will harm you. It’s just the energy that you’re moving; you can often feel it. (Yes, peoples, it’s an actual “Real” thing.)
Embracing the Goddess:
Call upon Shitala for the most obvious of reasons: to banish physical illnesses and maladies. Be respectful, be wary, be sure that you appease her with ritual cleansings. Remember that this goddess not only cures illness, she creates it.
Shitala’s Correspondences:
Herbs: columbine, lemon balm, myrrh,
thyme, lilac
Color: blue, silver
Planet: Moon
Day: Monday
Element: Water
Feminine Face: Crone
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• May ~ Maia
Origin: Greek
Influences: rebirth, fertility, motherhood
AKA: Maia Majesta
Symbols: flowers (she’s referred to as the “queen of
flowers”), braided or knotted items, doves
She was the eldest of the seven nymphs of Pleiades, the
daughter of Atlas. She is an earth goddess who also
embodies the energy of mother, nurse, and midwife. She’s
often referred to as the “grandmother of magic”.
Interestingly enough, Maia was a goddess whose rites were
restricted to women only. She was considered a “good
goddess”, or a Bona Dea.
It’s said that the nymphs, the seven daughters of Atlas had to
change themselves into doves to escape the hunter Orion.
When they flew up into the sky, they were transformed into
seven stars, thus forming the constellation we know as
Pleiades, or the Seven Sisters.
There’s not a lot of information found on this goddess,
though she was, for some reason, deemed important enough
to have a month named after her.
May’s Magick/Fairy Moon
Manifesting a Passionate Connection
So, what kind of “passionate connection” are you looking
for?
❖ A fling… a fun time once-in-a-while thing.
❖ a soul mate… and this is one of those forever
connections, supposedly being your “perfect
match” for all eternity, through several
lifetimes – I don’t know why this makes me
feel cynical, but that’s for another book.
❖ a twin flame… and you want to think on this
one – twin flames are those people we go
through lousy crap with over and over,
lifetime after lifetime, until we actually learn
the lesson Spirit has been trying to beat into
our heads.
Anyway, whatever your taste for passion may be, let’s get on
with the manifestation of it.
Let’s begin with a glass of wine, a wine of your choice. If you
don’t drink wine, that’s okay, substitute it with a glass of
grape juice, it’ll do.
While you’re working on the crafting of this manifestation,
you will enjoy the leisurely sipping of this magical wine. (It’s
magical because you are imbuing it with your intention as
you work and as you think)
We’re going to “fix” and light a red votive candle. Be sure
you have chosen a pretty and safe candle holder for it and
that you will be placing it in a safe place to burn.
Put a few drops of rose essential oil on this candle and
massage it in good, concentrating all the while on your
intention, your desire, and sending this energy into this
candle with the touch of your hands.
Set the candle up in its holder. You’re going to take a few
drops of the wine from your glass and drip them onto the top
of the candle as well, just a couple drops will do, and do this
before you light the candle, we don’t want any human
torches here.
Grab your matches, or your lighter, and light her up.
Sit back and finish your wine, thinking about what it is you’re
doing, what you’re manifesting. Take your time, maybe
you’ll need to refill the glass, at least once. And smile.
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I forget how jam-packed this book is until I go back and revisit it, which I’m inexplicably drawn to do from time to time. The oddest thing about writing books is that when you go back and re-read them, you don’t remember where these thoughts and ideas and words all came from. (Did I say that?) Writing a book is kind of like being momentarily possessed. Below, you’ll find the Table of Contents to Natural Magick the Gray Witch Way, and maybe you too will be inexplicably drawn to this book.
How does real magick work?…10
Forms of Magick…13
The Mysteries of Magickal Manifestation…19
Creating Magickal Space…26
A Checklist of Magickal Supplies…53
Charging your Magickal Tools…65
Twelve Months of Magick…72
Seven Days of Magick…104
Animal Magick…115
Magick for Love n’ Money…144
· Love Spells…151
· Love Potion #9
· Rose Spell
· Smooth Marital Turmoil
· Hot Sex Spell
· Makin’ Tracks
· Love Spells for Men…157
· Make Her Behave: Pubic Hair Spell
· Magickal Male Enhancement
· Love Spells for Women…161
· Keep Him Faithful Spell
· Attract Your Man
· Irresistibly Spell
Money…166
· Money Spells…169
· Silver Coin Spell
· Loose the Miser Spell
· New Business Money Mojo
· Sugar Honey Jar Spell
· Home Money Spell
· Pocket Money Spell
Mojo Magick…182
· Poppets…184
· Mojo Bags…207
Magick Oils/Potions/Powders…226
Crystal Magick…270
Candle Magick…297
Magickal Alphabets and Symbols…314
· Runes…316
· Witch’s Alphabet…325
· The Pentagram…329
· The Elements…334
· Planets…341
· Astrological Symbols…354
Witches’ Bottles…366
Essential Oils…386
Kitchen Magick…392
· Recipes…405
· Strawberry Love Salad
· Lady Amythyst’s Pumpkin Pie
· Gingerbread
· Litha Peach Cobbler
· Full Moon Biscuits
· Deviled Eostre Eggs
· Lammas Loaf
· Midsummer’s Night Tea
· Garden Magick Soup
· Green Man Cake
· Beltane Bean Dish
Good Luck Charms…439
Questions and Answers…447
· What is the difference between white and black magick?
· Is it possible to dwell too much on a spell you’ve cast & ruin it?
· Who can do magick?
· What is a familiar?
· What is neo-paganism?
· Do All witches practice their religion the same way?
· Who is the Wiccan Goddess?
· When did you first know you were a witch?
Magickal Substitutions…467
Terms and Lingo…473
Even before “The Gray Witch’s Grimoire” had been sent flying across the pond to my publisher in England (Moon Books/John Hunt Publishing), I was knee-deep in writing my next witchy book, “Natural Magick the Gray Witch Way”. The second book I published independently with Amazon through their KDP program under Pink Orchid Publishing — which is me. But for one brief insane moment, there was one of those slow-motion experiences when the little voice in my head said, “Wait a minute, you should combine these books.” It was absolute basic laziness which resulted in my reaction, which was “Nope, don’t think so, there’s so much material here.” So I didn’t.
One book went one way, on its destiny overseas, where it would eventually become a best seller. And the other book has found it’s spot at Amazon, happily ensconced among the witchy tomes of neo-pagans around the world.
I have always said, and I’m saying so again with emphasis, that these two books make great companion books and will get along quite well on the book shelf together. Whatever I didn’t include in one, can be found in the other. Below you’ll find an overview of the contents of each book and links to purchase. Both books are available in print and kindle at Amazon…. continue reading, follow the link: https://everycathasatale.blogspot.com/2022/07/two-books-that-make-great-companions.html
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· March ~ Eostre
Origin: Germanic
Influences: spring and dawn, fertility, birth
AKA: Ostara
Symbols: rabbits, eggs, spring flowers, butterflies
This goddess is all about spring, birth, fertility, and the changing of seasons, the return of spring bringing with it the planting season, the return of warmth and promise and new beginnings.
The oddest myth that follows Eostre is the story of how she saved a bird from freezing to death in the winter. Its wings were frozen together. Eostre magically changed the bird into a rabbit, a rabbit which retained its ability to lay eggs.
I don’t know about you, but this puts a whole new spin on the Easter images I grew up with.
I would imagine, in ancient times, when the rituals of this goddess were regularly practiced among the people, she was looked upon with a sigh of relief, as in another winter has passed and we survived. Symbolically, it seems, the celebration for this goddess on the spring equinox would herald the return of daylight, as well as preparations for planting and the birthing of farm animals for sustenance.
In other words, it feels like the world is coming out of a dark frigid isolating winter and things are starting to move again, coming to life.
Hmmm… “Eostre” sounds an awful lot like “estrogen”, just saying.
March’s Magick/Seed Moon
A Protection Spell
The main thing about someone who thinks they need a protection spell is that there’s something that’s making them feel threatened in some way.
Who, or what, are you afraid of; or what is the set of circumstances that makes you feel threatened? What do you think you need protection from? Think about it, and then proceed with the following spell, if you still feel that it’s needed:
Let’s create a mojo bag for protection, as this is a very versatile way to create protection for a wide variety of reasons.
v Start with the bag, a drawstring bag – I would choose black to repel negative people, entities, or circumstances; to banish unwanted things; to neutralize negative energy. But you choose whatever color makes you feel safe and secure, warm, and fuzzy… protected.
v Second – write down on a small piece of paper what you want protection from, be specific, be blunt and to the point. Next, take a red ink pen or marker and with intention, along with much vigor and emotion, maybe a little cursing and spitting, draw a large red X through this list. It’s okay to get emotional, get angry, get all riled up – what you’re doing is raising energy.
v Third – let’s add some other “ingredients” to this bag, just so the universe and Spirit get the full picture. This could be personal effects from an individual, and not just the stereotypical “hair and fingernail clippings”. It could be the button off a shirt, a coin from their purse or wallet, a photograph, a piece of jewelry (an earring, or ring, or necklace chain), a tube of lipstick, a cigarette butt – you get the idea. Be creative.
Tie this bag closed, preferably with three knots. Keep it in a secret safe place and allow it to work undisturbed. Should the time come when you no longer feel the need for it, you can: 1) toss it in the flame of a fire and let it burn to ash, 2) dismantle the bag and its ingredients and toss them into the trash, or 3) bury it somewhere off your property.
The “stars” keep coming. Apparently this book has hit a cord with many people out there, women particularly, who connect with the experiences that are reflected here. Please, keep passing this book along… to your sister, your friend, your co-worker, or acquaintance, anyone you think would benefit by reading it, by hearing someone else’s story, by discovering that they are not the only ones to experience the narcissist and a toxic relationship. You are not alone, and the best thing you can do to protect yourself is to arm yourself with knowledge; knowledge about the different faces of emotional instability and abuse, knowledge about how to deal with this kind of situation and this type of person. Learn how to heal, how to move on, or how to rebuild. Pass it on…
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5.0 out of 5 stars Should be required reading for any woman in a relationship with a man. Reviewed in the United States on November 3, 2023
What a shame that I didn’t have the advice from this book prior to getting married. No, wait ….. prior to dating! The well laid out categories of cheaters described by this author pretty much cover many of the men that I either dated or married. Had I read of the author’s experiences perhaps I would have been more capable of identifying the behaviors I experienced but did not fully recognize. I fell into the well defined woman’s category of thinking that since I was honest, everyone else was, right?
I could go on and on with examples that I have personally experienced and which resonate with my history, but you would be bored with my descriptions. Just read this book.
Let me say this, again. Just read this book if you are in the market for a new relationship, if you find yourself questioning yourself because of your partner’s behavior, or if you’ve ever had that little tingle that is telling you something is way, way, off, but you just don’t WANT to recognize it.
I recognized the description of myself in this book and also recognized much of my own self-destructive, accommodating behavior. I also found many, many of the people I’ve been involved with. Too bad I didn’t read it much sooner.
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I just received the author’s proof copy of my newest book, the book that is a whole new genre for me, and I’m absolutely thrilled. Here’s a sneak peek inside the book, and remember that you can read a limited section at Amazon with their “read sample” feature.
Here’s the table of contents. The first part of this book is a true, very personal, experience that sets the tone for this Madd Housewife and gives you an idea of the issues she’s dealing with. (Names and locations have been changed to protect the privacy of those whose life is laid bare here.)
The second part of the book takes a look at the issues that were being experienced in the first part of the book and how to identify them, because sometimes in the midst of the hubbub you’re not sure what’s happening. And, of course, we examine possible solutions to overcome these nefarious issues.
The third part of the book is everything you should know in the realm of relationships so that you can plot a successful course for your love life and hopefully avoid some of the unfortunate pitfalls that are just laying in wait for you.
Table of Contents
Part 1: Coffee & Ruminations
That’s a Problem…10
The Map & the Rendezvous…17
Time to Man Up…27
Habitual Cheater…32
A Prologue to Little Miss Mexico…40
A Most Unusual Question…44
How I Long for Stability & Security…49
I Can’t Tell You What You Want to Hear…53
You Just Wait…56
Why Are We Even Together…59
Finally, An Honest Moment…66
A Suspicious Mind…69
I Can’t Talk…74
I Know the Signs…77
The Kat Woman…82
Facebook Games with His Friends…88
Relationship Stuff: a squatter, life, business,
moving, & wedding rings…94
Just When I Think He’s Normal…103
I Think I’m Going to Have to Move…106
The Gold Woman’s Band Appears: It’s Not a Wedding Ring!…111
City Place @ Newport Apartments…115
Unsupervised, He Says…119
I Heart You…121
Part 2: Things You Should Know
What if Your Partner is Emotionally Unstable…127
When Does Flirting Turn Into Cheating…136
Chronic Cheaters…140
The Archetypes of a Cheater…147
Nine Ways to Recognize a Liar…150
Finding Your Ex on Social Media…155
Do’s And Don’ts and Common Sense…160
Emotional Deprivation Disorder…165
The Serial Over-Lapper…169
Signs Your Partner is Not Over Their Ex…173
Falling In Love with Someone Still In Love with Their Ex…177
Emotional Cheating…180
Part 3: Healing & Rebuilding, or Moving On
When It’s Time to Abandon Ship…185
Relationship Trauma…188
Surviving Repeated Infidelity…191
Boundaries and the Ex, What to Avoid…196
How Should You Deal with a Lying Partner…201
Walk Away Wife Syndrome…208
What About the Narcissist…211
The Emotionally Immature Partner…220
Three Stages of a Toxic Relationship…227
The #1 Destroyer of Relationships…233
Recovering from a Toxic Relationship…236
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5.0 out of 5 stars Toxic relationships decoded.Reviewed in the United States on October 24, 2023
Toxic relationships. Everyone has either had one (or more), or they know someone who has. In Chronicles of a Madd Housewife: It’s Not You, It’s Me, celebrated author, Amythyst Raine, takes a departure from her previous writings to give the reader perspective into what it’s like to be caught in a toxic situation. Could this be you? ….or someone you know? How long do you stay? When is it time to leave? If you’re not sure of the answers to these questions, I encourage you to read this book. You’ll find the answers here.
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The following are excerpts from my book “The Divine Me”, a 2023 release that is available at Amazon.
From the chapter: The Goddess in Every Day
• Saturday: let’s cleanse
Burn candles of black; burn incense of mimosa, hemp, and comfrey; carry in your pockets or adorn your body with black onyx, Apache tears, and obsidian.
Let’s work on… making ourselves feel safe, in whatever capacity this entails; taking extra precautions to secure our home; laying a line of defense against unexpected negativity; drawing boundaries that may be difficult but necessary to our wellbeing.
Kali ~ Hindu
Kali is the banshee screeching warrior goddess, the goddess of death and doom. The black goddess of revenge and bloodlust. But you gotta’ love her. It’s her energy that will fight to protect the innocent; it’s her energy that’s needed for retribution and accountability for the bad guys.
As the myth goes, Kali was born when she emerged from the forehead of the Goddess Durga and is believed to be the manifestation of that goddess’s anger. No wonder Kali has an attitude.
The most notable story I found on Kali involved her husband, Lord Shiva. After Kali was called upon to save the world by going on a rampage against a demon army led by Raktabija, she had herself so wrapped in murderous energy that she couldn’t stop herself and began destroying any living thing within her reach.
To cease this frenzied murder spree, her husband Shiva laid down in her path, blocking her way. Apparently, he thought that this would stop her. Silly idea. She was blinded to rationality and restraint, and she wildly started stomping the sh… er, bejeebers out of her own husband.
Oops.
Upon suddenly realizing her terrible mistake, overcome with remorse, laced with a wee bit of embarrassment, it’s said that she stuck out her bloody tongue. In some versions, it’s stated that she pulled her tongue out, either way, it makes for quite a visual.
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From the chapter: Facing the Mirror ~ How Do You Connect with Yourself
• Be aware of changes in your energy
Yes, learn to do this. It could save your life.
I was at a stop light in Fremont, Nebraska, southbound on Broad St. I was driving, my now ex-husband was sitting in the passenger seat. All of the sudden, yep, there it was, that “change” in energy. It’s so hard to describe because it can be so subtle. My reaction to it was that I froze. The red light turned green, and still, I sat there, frozen. My ex was shouting at me now, “Move, go!! The light is green!”
Nope, my body wouldn’t budge.
Within seconds, a car went speeding through a red light in front of us, west bound on 23rd St., at 60 or 70 miles an hour. If I would’ve been making my left hand turn onto this street, it would have broadsided us.
After this vehicle whooshed through this intersection, yep, there it was again, that weird change in energy. I was no longer frozen. I was also miffed at the man in the passenger seat and his attitude, so I turned to him calmly as he sat there now in shocked silence, open-mouthed, and I said, “Okay, now it’s time to move.”
I have authored three tarot books, and these three tarot books are very different, each one uniquely focused on an aspect of the tarot that sets it apart from the other books. One of these books is apparently somewhat controversial: Tarot for Grownups. I remember offering a copy of this book to a woman who is in the new-age magazine publishing business, anxious to get her opinion on it, and when she finally messaged me back, the email was one sentence that said: “I don’t get it.”
That was disappointing, as well as a little confusing, as my intentions for this book were quite clear.
I had read an astrology book titled “The Dark Side of the Zodiac”, and wow, was it ever. I loved it! We all know that Libra isn’t always about beauty and love, sometimes she’s a whore; and Aquarius isn’t all new-agey and quirky and unique, sometimes she’s a cold bitch. It’s true, with all twelve signs, there is another side we were ignoring. I loved reading this book, it took reality and threw it all over the pages so it spilled out in recognizable personalities — the good, the bad, and especially the ugly. It was refreshing!
So I decided to do the same thing with tarot, and I must say, I thought I was actually pretty gentle about it, because I could’ve been way more blunt — way more. Yes, really.
Now, the negative side of the tarot is not usually a subject for focus, it’s actually discouraged. It’s mostly glossed over and ignored in the fluffy bunny white-light feel-good tarot community, but the tarot has a dark side, and so do we. I was tired of all the hoopla and attention being put on always being positive and upbeat and avoiding anything even remotely negative connected to the querent or the cards. Well, this attitude doesn’t begin to approach real life, and this isn’t doing your querent any good. Sometimes people need to hear the truth, even if it’s nitty-gritty, kind of like a napkin with coffee stains on it. At least they can clearly see where the issues are and what needs attention to straighten out their energy and their lives.
People don ‘t come to have a reading when their life is all hunky dory and their world is coming up roses. They come for a reading when they are in trouble, threatened, confused, vulnerable and sometimes hurting. They come for a reading when they need help, and they need some honest advice. They want answers, they don’t want shiny new-age euphemisms.
So, voila… Tarot for Grownups.
I can always tell when someone has written a book review without thoroughly reading the book, especially when they get all high-horse and blunder the review. Case in point:
There was a ranting review left at Amazon complaining about the book being “all dark”. The reviewer stated: “…it’s all very well selling this book as a no nonsense, cut-and-dried kind of book but I felt that the author had a very negative approach with no positive traits in her descriptions of people.”
Excuse me, Sarah. You didn’t read the book, did you? Come on, you can tell me, you glossed through it, didn’t you?
“In the section of this book identifying the court cards, my intention was to concentrate on the dark side, because it’s this side that we so often need more insight into and it’s this side that causes all the problems; but for the purpose of choosing a significator, we also have to recognize the positive aspects of our own personality, and I’m going to give you a brief description here of the lighter side, the softer edge, to the court cards.”
And then I do just that.
Love Spells
Lilith’s Lust Spell
Nutmeg Fidelity Spell
Strawberry Sex Spell
Bloody Love Spell
Asunder You Shall Go: Dividing Lovers
The Face of Your True Love
A Mid-Summer’s Eve Love Spell
Beauty Spell
Shed Your Skin Spell
To Summon
Call Me
Summoning Powder
Rosemary Summons
To Beckon
Summoning Spirits
Health & Healing
Basic Candle Spell
To Cure an Illness (knot magic)
Healing Crystal
Command & Compel Spells
Commanding Oil
Do My Bidding Spell
Court Case Spells
Basic Candle Spell
Magical Options for Legal Spells
Beef Tongue Court Case Spells
Money Spells
Basic Candle Spell
Money Bottle
Keep It Flowing
Spells for the Tongue
A Poppet to Stop a Gossip
Seal the Mouth Spell
Cat’s Got Your Tongue Spell
Keep My Secret
Liar Come to Light Spell
Protection Spells
Basic Candle Spell
A Vehicle Blessing
To Spite Your Face
The In-Law Spell
To Ward Off Negativity
Hexing, Cursing, Binding
Return to Sender
A Hex
A Binding
Binding Negative Behavior
Freeze Thy Enemy
Feel My Wrath Spell
Breaking the Spell
Bind Me Not
Reversed the Curse
Breaking Another Witch’s Spell
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Love Spells
Love Potion #9
Rose Spell
Smooth Marital Turmoil
Hot Sex Spell
Makin’ Tracks
Love Spells for Men:
Make Her Behave, Pubic Hair Spell
Magickal Male Enhancement
Love Spells for Women:
Keep Him Faithful Spell
Attract Your Man
Irresistibility Spell
Money Spells
Silver Coin Spell
Lose the Miser Spell
New Business Money Mojo
Sugar Honey Jar Spell
Home Money Spell
Pocket Money Spell
Kitchen Magick
Recipes
Strawberry Love Salad
Lady Amythyst’s Pumpkin Pie
Gingerbread
Litha Peach Cobber
Full Moon Biscuits
Deviled Eostre Eggs
Lammas Loaf
Midsummer’s Night Tea
Garden Magick Soup
Green Man Cake
Beltane Bean Dish
*Note: you’ll find “Magickal Substitutions” on page 467.
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